After school club compromise

[PrincessHoneysuckle]

Fairly lighthearted!
Ds 5.5 started yr1 yesterday and today we've been given the slips to hand in for any afterschool club they want to attend.
Ds declared he just wanted to go to film club as the others made his arms and legs hurt I said if I sign you up for film club then I want you to pick another that is active I.e football,circus skills etc.. He picked football.Im not one of "those" mums by any stretch but I just didn't want him to pick the lazy option of just sitting on his bum for an hr.Im being harsh on him and u arent I?

I think YANBU and it's fair enough to make him try one active club. You can always re think if he hates it.

@Chitara hes done football for last 4 terms think might have been trying it on

sounds fine to me. In our school there are hardly any non sport based clubs, I wish there was something like film club!

Is this a once a week club? Or every day. Tbh I wouldn’t have an issue with them sitting on their bums for an hour aged 5.5 after being at school all day. They need chill time. They don’t have to be active every hour. Presumably he is active at home?

YANBU, sounds like a good compromise.

@Joxer hes not very active at home just average I'd say.Its once a week so has 4 other school days of chill time.

Fair play to him, I say - I’d have chosen film club too. I know you want him to be active but presumably he does PE at school and runs around in the playground at playtime. And school is quite knackering for little ones so cosying up with a film sounds like a nice option for him. I also think it’s good for little kids to focus on a full length film rather than lots of episodes of short TV programmes.

I watched a lot of films when I was a kid and it left me with a lifelong love of cinema and storytelling.

Yanbu

It's good for them to have active activities and not so active ones.

It's a new trend in our school that all the kids fight over who plays in goals. We couldn't understand it - why would they want to stand there while others kicked the ball at them?
Then one child told us it's because the goalie doesn't have to do as much as the other players

Sounds like you could be doing more at home to get him active if that an issue.

@Joxer he gets enough for his age I'd say.Hes on the 16th centile for weight so no worries on that side of things.

Circus skills sounds fantastic!

So then I wouldn’t worry about football club. It supposed to be a fun thing for them. Not a forced thing. If he isn’t overweight and getting enough activity at home I wouldn’t insist on football club.

I encourage to try a new club/hobby every year. My child is 10 this month and we have tried plenty of things...always at least 1 active thing on the go. It turns out DC thing is swimming. Problem is recently DC has loved every club they have tried. We are going into Y5 with 2x swimming a week, Gymnastics, Street dance, Newspaper club, Choir and Youth club (where she also plays the bells). DC is very high energy so the busy routine means we all get sleep.

It keeps me busy trying to keep up with her calendar and it's starting to get costly.

I would say though it really helps to lead by example. You can't expect your child to do a sport and have a respect for being active if you don't do one yourself.

They can be very tired at that age. But as long as you check he does actually enjoy it, why not. Sometimes there is a "I'll enjoy it once I'm there" aspect to things. Describing your arms and legs as hurting doesn't sound like either tiredness or laziness. Maybe you should find out if something is actually sore for him?

@Horat hes a little dramatic shall we say I'm confident they dont hurt him,hes done clubs before and not had issues

Describing your arms and legs as hurting doesn't sound like either tiredness or laziness. Maybe you should find out if something is actually sore for him?

This

For years my youngest DD complained her legs hurt on short walks and we just dismissed, mentioned it at a doctor's appointment and he referred her to a podiatrist who diagnosed a form of hypermobility. Hers is mildish so she can manage it but he explained it as her muscles work 3 or 4 times harder than ours to keep up with us so a trip to the shops and back for us is an 8 mile hike for her. Might be worth keeping an eye on x

@ultrablue thanks I'll keep an eye on that

hes a little dramatic shall we say

Drama club then. and film club.

@Drabani

@from123toabc when you say she "plays the bells" do you mean a handbell orchestra? - or a carillon? - or tower bells?

Very cool, whichever it is (I'm a tower bell person myself).