To unfriend her?

[ElleDriver]

I have an old friend on my fb who has recently had her first child. Lovely lady and gorgeous little boy. She's massively into attachment parenting and is very much into sharing (or normalising as she calls it) lots of photos of her breastfeeding, co sleeping, babywearing and so on with long captions about how it's the best way to parent.

All fine, her choice. But lately her posts have become a bit more aggressive and she's now basically slagging off any differing parenting style to her own - example you're a 'dick' if you don't at least try feeding. Controlled crying is 'heartless and cruel' I mean come on. Why can't people just parent their own kids in their own way without shouting it from the rooftops and slagging off others?!

Might unfriend her. Aibu?

hmm, perhaps just hide her for the time being?

You could unfollow her, if that would make it easier? You'd still be friends but you wouldn't see her posts.

I'd just hide someone like that if their parenting posts were annoying me but they were otherwise a nice person. I wouldn't unfriend unless I was really offended.

Also you don't know what's really going on with her. Some people post about how perfect and wonderful their parenting is as a way to mask the fact that they are struggling or insecure. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and some compassion just in case.

I have a friend like that. I just unfollowed her so no drama

Good idea. I'll unfollow instead of unfriend. Yeah I suppose some people can over compensate if they are struggling. I don't think that's the case with her though. She's always been one for a 'cause' if that makes sense. Politically minded and loudly opinionated. So I think this is just her latest thing. The oversharing I can handle its just the rudeness

Some friends are not great on Facebook. You only get to see their irritating side. Unfollow her.

There's an option to "hide for 30 days" when you click the little dots to the top right of their post.
I use the feature often. Most recently with a woman I worked with the better part of 10 years ago. She's in her late 50s, and her elderly mother, who lives far away, has just died with dementia. Honestly, I just could hear any more about her dead mum, that I had to take a break.

You can also unfollow people, which means, as far as they're concerned, you're still friends. But you don't see any of their posts, unless you actively go to their profile directly to look. I did that with my sister's fiancée, who is a fairly unpleasant individual, and have never looked back.

I too have a Facebook friend who is exactly like this - in fact, if her child wasn't older I'd have wondered if they were the same person.

I don't have children, so she doesn't make me feel like my parenting style is being attacked or anything, but breastfeeding and attachment parenting is all she posts about. She posts three or four times a week mentioning breastfeeding, and constantly shares memes and articles about it. Her child is now school age so it's not like it's because it's still a novelty to her - this has been going on for about five years.

She also posts pictures of herself breastfeeding other people's babies. She's not some sort of wet nurse or anything, but she has a couple of friends who are also really into the whole attachment parenting and they swap their kids over and breastfeed each other's when they meet up.

I know it has upset a couple of other friends who have unfriended her. One of my friends had huge problems breastfeeding her son and already felt depressed, defeated and incredibly upset about this when in the grip of PND - it was one of the most difficult times she's ever had in her life. And every time she logged on Facebook, she'd see this other woman sharing statuses about how breastfeeding is the solution to every issue and that if your baby cries all the time or is ill it's because you're not breastfeeding enough/correctly. It's all very judgemental in my opinion and it's all very performative too.

Everyone's totally entitled to post whatever they want on Facebook, of course - it's their profile and up to them. But equally everyone's totally entitled to unfriend or unfollow and if I were you, I probably would. And I'd politely explain why if she asked me.

If you find toxic the relationship with her, and her behaviour, for your wellbeing is better to take out yourself from the situation.
We are leaving in a society where everybody is trying to convert you, thinking they are right, and if we have different opinions, they feel entitled to become aggressive.
Think if you really need/want people like this in your life.

YANBU. Parent any way you like but like most other things, don’t shove your choices down other people’s throats.

People who are dogmatic like this about attachment parenting always reminds me of Peaches Geldof and leads me to believe they're possibly struggling/compensating for something.

I have zero tolerance for dickheads. I’d unfriend her. Sanctimommy.

Next post ask her how she goes for a poo....

She also posts pictures of herself breastfeeding other people's babies. She's not some sort of wet nurse or anything, but she has a couple of friends who are also really into the whole attachment parenting and they swap their kids over and breastfeed each other's when they meet up.

I unfriended someone who stated that ‘parents who use dummies don’t love their children.’

God she sounds insufferable. Just unfriend her.

She also posts pictures of herself breastfeeding other people's babies. She's not some sort of wet nurse or anything, but she has a couple of friends who are also really into the whole attachment parenting and they swap their kids over and breastfeed each other's when they meet up.

Why the actual fuck would you do this just for the sake of it??? I could understand if someone had an issue with supply or something, but why for no reason? or the only reason being is just to push this issue down people's throats

Swinger breastfeeding WTAF 😮.

I had to mute a friend like this. Her profile picture is her breast and child feeding.

YANBU. Switch off notifications. Job done.

She also posts pictures of herself breastfeeding other people's babies. She's not some sort of wet nurse or anything, but she has a couple of friends who are also really into the whole attachment parenting and they swap their kids over and breastfeed each other's when they meet up.

Wow... So if someone's milk doesnt come in quick enough and they needed help I think that's quite helpful. But swapping babies? That's a bit too much.

I have an Instagram friend like this, I don't use Facebook for this reason anymore either. I just hide her posts and let her get on with it.

It's her 1st child and she thinks she knows everything. Just unfollow her so you don't have to read about how she fu**Ed him up later along the line

@ElizaDee @MissPepper8 I know - as you say, if it was to help mums who can’t breastfeed then it would be fine, but no, it’s just a thing she does at coffee mornings with a couple of her mates

@madambee I genuinely LOLed at that

@dollydaydream114 well tbh I would of thought it would be a bit unhygienic too sharing like that. My DS is 2 and he literally catches everything right now from playgroup so I can only imagine.

Unfollow, but leave her as a friend. It'll be interesting to pop back once a year or do to see which craze she's into now.