To be pissed off at the “back to school” onslaught

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I can’t go near Facebook or instagram this week (as well as several WhatsApp groups) due to back-to-school-here’s-a-pic-of-my-child(ren)-in-uniform.

For someone struggling with fertility issues it’s harder than ever to see. Especially as people I want to school with not only have school starters, but several junior and some secondary. Feeling very left behind and irrelevant 😞

I also don't want everyone on my facebook knowing where my children go to school.

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This, mainly.

There is a a woman on my 'feed' posting a pic of her daughter in Year 8, apologising for posting the obligatory photo two days late

The kid must've cringed so much

I'm sorry but you are BU. Social media is there for people to share what's going on in there lives, and back to school is a big moment for a lot of people that they want to capture and share. At certain times of year just step away from social media.. Mother's Day is another one.

I say this with love as some one who has had multiple MC and many many years TTC and has accepted that I won't be able to to have children. You can't spend your life begrudging those that do x

After 6 pregnancies but only one living child I was so excited to share his first day at school with close friends and family (the only people who can ser my posts). I never thought I would get to see the day a child of mine went to school.

I know it's hard. After each loss it was very hard to see similar posts. But I made a choice to almost fake it til I made it. I realised there wasn't a finite amount of pregnancy or babies to go around. I didn't want my grief, which had taken so much from me, to take happiness for others away too.

Coming off social media may be what helps you. I'm always sorry to hear of struggles like yours. I do wish you well whatever path your life takes.

I don’t think YABU - I’ve been where you are and it’s brutal and like a knife to the heart. It’s so so hard.

I’ve had multiple mcs but I finally have my 2 dcs and I thought I would never get there. Next year my oldest starts school and I can’t believe I’m lucky enough to finally have my own child starting school and I’m so grateful.

But I will never forget how distressing I found school pics, baby pics, baby showers, even walking past the children’s dept in somewhere like M&S or JL

I get it. I really do. Be kind to yourself and don’t torture yourself with social media.
Give a week and it’ll be over and hopefully one day you’ll be posting your own back to school pics

I used to just unfollow people on FB that did that. Then my FB got really quiet and boring so I stopped looking at it. This isn't a cautionary tale btw, it's excellent. FB's shit, getting off it is awesome.

Also, I always liked this meme:

OP rest assured not all parents do this. I have two DCs now at secondary school and yes almost every mum will post a first day at school photo, but after that it calms down.

I have a lot of Facebook friends, but recently hid almost half to encourage me to keep up more regularly with the ones I liked and found interesting. Many of the ones I hid were mums who only seemed to post photos of their DCs - unless you're a family member it can be quite boring!

Good luck with conceiving - I had my first at 39 after trying for 18 months, and my second at 42 after an ectopic and a miscarriage.

I'm finding it shit because we home-educate. But yes in general, its shit.