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Did I commit a dating sin? Moving too fast?

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MyLucifrr · 04/09/2019 20:29

Started speaking to someone online and over the phone. He mentioned that he’d bought a weekend away for his sister and partner but they’d broke up and so he’d like to take me and said he was thinking of this date to go.

We met up and it was good, he even mentioned about us going on another weekend away.

Now last I’ve text him and mentioned the weekend and he’s said today that I’m moving too fast and he can’t believe I want to spend an entire weekend with him,

Confused

If he had never mentioned the already paid for weekend I would never have asked anything about going away

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TerrorYakSores · 04/09/2019 21:24

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Derbee · 04/09/2019 21:28

Life’s too short for these mind fucks from people. Move on.

Andallofasuddenitsover · 04/09/2019 21:32

Red flag! He’s a freak. Move on OP Flowers

Mycatwontstopstaring · 04/09/2019 21:50

He’s messing you around and making you feel like the problem is you not him. Classic gaslighting. Run now.

Chocolate1984 · 04/09/2019 21:53

He’s already messing with your head. Don’t bother.

raviolidreaming · 04/09/2019 22:20

Sounds like the weekend was for his girlfriend / ex, they're getting back together, and so now he's trying to cool things with you. Which is shit. Move on!

MorrisZapp · 04/09/2019 22:26

INSCRIBED BIBLE

WHAT THE FUCK

hopefulandstrong · 04/09/2019 22:27

My dp said he's broke up with his gf, hooked up with you, got back with his gf and now needs you to step back.

Why did you meet him and order the Uber?
If he has money to treat his sister why wasn't he booking it?
Your not in the wrong, you've had a lucky escape.
The weekend after meeting my dp we spent together and have now been together 3 years. This man is shady and isn't someone you want to spend another minute on.
When a relationship is right you don't need to question it or feel weird.

Bluntness100 · 04/09/2019 22:27

Sorry op, I think he's just not that into you. Can't win em all. Let it be.

To be honest though not sure I'd want to spend a whole weekend with a man I'd met once, I assume sharing a room. So I can see his point there,

I suspect he just said it as a nice idea, floated it, not a serious offer as he'd never even met you.

CodenameVillanelle · 04/09/2019 22:29

Well it is weird to go away for a weekend with someone you've just started dating - what made you think it would be a good idea?

Butchyrestingface · 04/09/2019 22:32

Well it is weird to go away for a weekend with someone you've just started dating - what made you think it would be a good idea?

Maybe the fact that he raised and said he wanted them to go away?

AmIThough · 04/09/2019 22:34

If someone suggested a weekend away before we'd even met I'd be super freaked out.

You'll probably find he's had the same conversation with 5 other women and he's picked a favourite.

keepingbees · 04/09/2019 22:37

Weird he suggested it before you even met. It sounds like he's cooled off since meeting you anyway sorry.
I would just say you only mentioned it as it was his suggestion, then block and run. He sounds odd.

Howlovely · 04/09/2019 22:46

Definitely sounds like a head fuck. I met my husband online so I get the whole thing of chatting first, feeling like you actually know them really well before meeting, etc, and my husband and I got serious really quickly but I'd also think it a bit strange and forward to suggest a weekend away with someone I'd been chatting to for two weeks.
Is he still texting/ringing you after his comment that you were moving too fast? If so just don't respond/pick up. If he asks why just say you're going backwards now.

CodenameVillanelle · 05/09/2019 08:03

Yes but a normal response to an invitation for a weekend away from a guy you've never yet met is 'what the actual fuck no way you weirdo' so I'm wondering why the op didn't say that?

milliefiori · 05/09/2019 08:06

He's a waste of space. I'm always staggered how many emotionally immature men there are on OLD. Normal women meet male dregs.

Original poster
MyLucifrr · 05/09/2019 16:55

Well he’s been texting me today (I haven’t replied). Because I read and didn’t respond he text me to say “have a nice life” Confused

I don’t think he has a recent ex or got back with anyone. He’s related to my best friends boyfriend and she told me this.

I really don’t care either way. I’m not hung up on him or need to move on.

OP posts:
dollydaydream114 · 05/09/2019 19:21

Well he’s been texting me today (I haven’t replied). Because I read and didn’t respond he text me to say “have a nice life”

What. A. Twat.

timshelthechoice · 05/09/2019 19:26

Block him.

AllStar14 · 05/09/2019 19:27

Massive twat. Do have a nice life, without him in it.

TruJay · 05/09/2019 19:29

Sounds like a lucky escape to me

RavenLG · 05/09/2019 19:33

He sounds like a psychotic 14 year old. Have a nice life. Christ.

EmeraldShamrock · 05/09/2019 19:34

Definitely a lucky escape OP.

itsgoodtobehome · 05/09/2019 19:34

He suggested a weekend away before you had even met him. And he thinks you're moving too fat?? RUN!!!

itsgoodtobehome · 05/09/2019 19:34

fast not fat!!

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