to ask how to chill the fuck out

[cjt110]

I've got a lot going on at home at the moment - neighbour issues - which is basically being lumped onto me on behalf of the entire block.

My son is being particularly trying but I am hoping that is just because he's bored of the summer hols and will sort itself shortly now he's back at school.

I basically feel like a pent up ball of anger and rage and need to switch off, and chill out. But I don;t know how to.

I can feel my body going into a crash mode with my health conditions and I want to try and save it before it spirals

Punch the shit out of some pillows while swearing every swear word on the planet. Got for a mad run up the road. Basically get out the pent up emotion in a physical way. Then practise in your head the mantra "not my circus, not my monkeys"/"whateva"/"I give no fucks" etc.

When I'm feeling at the point of crumbling from stress I find Yoga Nidra really useful. Also listening to crystal sound bowls and gongs on YouTube, not for everyone but I find it incredibly relaxing. I also find an evening walk to be the best thing to help me drift off when I've been stressed out all day, doesn't have to be long but just having some time pounding the pavement can help.

I find gaming a great stress/anxiety distraction. Do you have any gaming consoles at home?

yoga & mindfulness - recommend the headspace app, free trial is really really good

I also like the Headspace app.

I am not home 'til after 5 but i think when I get in, not a fuck shall be given. I will make tea and DS will go to bed. Then I will watch tv with lots of junk food

I very much doubt my neighbours are bothered about a middle aged widow having the occasional shmoke

Oh I don't know - the worst think about my home is the weed-smoking neighbors!

A 5 minute meditation. They have ones for frustration, stress, improved focus.... all free. There are payable options. There is even a one min one that I regularly do to calm myself between meetings.

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When I get down and have a lot to cope with, getting out is the only thing that helps. I run with music on really loud in my headphones and it does wonders for clearly my head

Do you run or do sport? Even walking would do you good.

Adult colouring book?

Remember it’s fine to say No to things if people ask you to sort things for the building you live in for example.
With the sink at work, when someone asks for an update say “look I reported it as nobody else bothered but getting an update isn’t really my responsibility”

I know junk food is tempting but it does make you feel sluggish and gain weight then you feel more crap. Don’t get in to that cycle

Oh I don't know - the worst think about my home is the weed-smoking neighbors!

How do you know they use weed, can you smell it? I vape mine or make it into butter so no smell whatsoever I am at a loss as to how I could possibly be ruining their enjoyment of their home.

They're my dh's favourite!