So this sounds like it is about posting pictures of people’s kids on social media but is really more about my BIL’s response.
My sister has recently had a baby. We are very close, she has always had a great relationship with my DS and has posted pictures of him on Facebook numerous times over the years. She has never asked permission, but as I am fine with it this has never been an issue. Fast forward to her daughter. She posted pictures of her on fb just after she was born. I recently posted a few pics of her daughter and me on fb. I didn’t ask, I usually would if it was a friend but assumed (wrongly) it would be fine, given the history with my DS and her pictures.
I wake up in the morning to find a message from my BIL, sent late at night on our group chat, saying he was ‘very uncomfortable’ with me sharing pictures without his ‘permission’ and asking me to take them down. I found the tone of his message extremely rude and it really upset me. My intentions in sharing the pictures were only to show my friends and our family abroad how proud I am of my DN.
Am I being unreasonable to think he could have expressed himself more politely in asking me to take them down? Am I also being unreasonable to think he or my sister should tell people about this rule upfront? I am also pretty upset my sister didn’t take umbrage at his tone, if my DH spoke to her like that I would go mad and insist he apologise. All she has done is say it is her DH’s view not hers but she has to respect it nothing about the way he expressed himself!