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Original poster

To think it’s ridiculous having meetings at this time of night?

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Sexnotgender · 03/09/2019 21:49

I want to watch the bake off with my husband and he’s at a stupid meeting!

First world problems I know but it’s nearly ten o bloody clock.

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Lindy2 · 04/09/2019 15:01

DH and I have certain things we watch together. I would be a bit put out if he watched Poldark without me. However, if zi really wanted to watch something we watch together and he wasn't there I think I'd go ahead and watch it and then watch it again with him another time. That would work quite well for Bake Off because if you don't tell him you've already seen it you'll do really well "predicting" who wins each round and goes out at the end. 😂

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Sexnotgender · 04/09/2019 15:06

My husband is definitely not an MP! You guys are hilarious.

His job isn’t super important or mysterious. He works for a church.

Please continue to talk shite though.

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LakieLady · 04/09/2019 15:07

When I worked in local government, I had to go to committee meetings that started at 7.30pm and often didn't end until 11.30. By the time you'd had a quick debrief with the chair and taken your stuff back to the office, it was rare to get away before midnight. And you couldn't take time off the following morning because you had the minutes and reports to do.

It only took someone to be off sick and have to cover a meeting of theirs and you could be unlucky and get 3 meetings in a week. After that, you were bloody shattered!

I was so grateful when I moved to a shire county where they had much more civilised daytime meetings.

So, I don't think it's unreasonable, but for years it was my normal.

TheOrigFV45 · 04/09/2019 15:09

Loads of people have stupid hour meetings if you deal with countries around the world, doesn’t take a genius to work that one out!

But the OP said this meeting didn't involve people in other time zones.

It doesn't take a genius to RTFT Wink

Bound4DaReload · 04/09/2019 15:09

@Sexnotgender Grin Grin That's the most disappointing reply you could come back with. I was imagining you were Sally Bercow, sailing close to the winds of British power but actually you've now made me think you're a long-suffering vicar's wife from the home counties. Gutted.

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Sexnotgender · 04/09/2019 15:15

Terribly sorry to disappoint 😂 I love how people take a teeny tiny bit of information and create ridiculous scenarios though.

It’s my own fault though, I probably should have put lighthearted in the OP.

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TheOrigFV45 · 04/09/2019 15:21

I think it's because you said it was a stupid meeting. I would have assumed that a meeting for something you volunteer for in your spare time wouldn't be classed as stupid.

As much as you might love the job you do, most people wouldn't be happy with a work meeting at 10pm, so I think we assumed it was work rather than pleasure.

Definitely over-thinking!

Anyway, what faith are you? I know Rosh hashanah is coming up at the end of this month. Was it a meeting about that?

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Sexnotgender · 04/09/2019 15:23

It is work. He was required to be there.

Faith is Christian.

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Bound4DaReload · 04/09/2019 15:25

@Sexnotgender It just seemed very coincidental that you were complaining about your DP being in a late-night meeting on the same day that there was very important late-night meeting happening in British politics.

I've been tainted by MN - there are so many drip-feeders and stealth boasters on here Grin

CloudsCanLookLikeSheep · 04/09/2019 15:30

I wouldn't be so sure he's in a meeting at that time unless you have proof

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Sexnotgender · 04/09/2019 15:31

I wouldn't be so sure he's in a meeting at that time unless you have proof

I have no concerns that he was somewhere other than in the meeting.

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Labrodite · 04/09/2019 15:37

YANBU! 10pm is a ridiculous time for a meeting, except in special circumstances. I don’t see what’s wrong with you wanting to watch Bake Off with him either!

TheOrigFV45 · 04/09/2019 15:37

So is it normal to for people who work in the church to have meetings at 10pm?

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Sexnotgender · 04/09/2019 15:38

So is it normal to for people who work in the church to have meetings at 10pm?

Yes.

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Crossfitwidow · 04/09/2019 15:41

Was he helping out with an exorcism?

I imagine that's standard night time church business.

Labrodite · 04/09/2019 15:45

Saying that, one of my family members is in a church parish council and they hold meetings from about 7pm which makes sense because it’s when most people aren’t at work and can attend. It would be a voluntary job for everyone except the vicar and curate though.

Deathraystare · 04/09/2019 15:49

Was he helping out with an exorcism?

I imagine that's standard night time church business.

Wooooo! That's quite funny.

Unfortunately some of these replies were a bit mean. Nothing wrong in her wanting to sit down next to her own husband and feeling a bit miffed that because his meeting was going on he was not there. Sadly a lot of posts involve women who for their own piece of mind/safety would probably wish there husband was in a late meeting!

OllyBJolly · 04/09/2019 15:52

I would have assumed that a meeting for something you volunteer for in your spare time wouldn't be classed as stupid

Believe me, a lot of the meetings I attend for voluntary groups can be pretty stupid - but a necessary part of running the group sometimes

dollydaydream114 · 04/09/2019 15:53

He works for a church.

To be fair I bet God's Outlook calendar is a fucking nightmare when you're trying to book a meeting. I bet he's on loads of committees and stuff.

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Sexnotgender · 04/09/2019 15:55

To be fair I bet God's Outlook calendar is a fucking nightmare when you're trying to book a meeting. I bet he's on loads of committees and stuff.

😂😂

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ineedaholidaynow · 04/09/2019 15:58

I volunteer on a number of committees which have evening meetings which can run on and on so I don’t get home until about 10.

The first meeting I went to DH said he would wait to have dinner with me when I got home. He never did that again 😄

DarlingNikita · 04/09/2019 15:58

Good lord there's po-faced people on here.

Why get affronted if the OP doesn't tell us her DH's job? Why be offended at the thought that it might be an 'important' job? What on earth is wrong with wanting to save things to watch with a DH? My DP and I are currently sitting on the first two Bake Offs because our lodger is away and we always watch it together Grin

It’s my own fault though, I probably should have put lighthearted in the OP. Sadly, I think one really does have to on here these days.

ellzebellze · 04/09/2019 15:59

Is your DH the Archbishop of Canterbury?!

EdnaAdaSmith · 04/09/2019 15:59

I agree it's a ridiculous time for a meeting especially if there are no time differences.

I was at work at 10pm (and 11om, and midnight, and 1am) last night, but that's because I work shifts including nights and if I hadn't been there someone might have come to harm. A meeting though - I can't imagine staying in a job that had meetings at 10pm without a very good reason indeed.

We have things we only watch together too neither of us would watch those series alone, though they're not things we watch in real time. I cba to watch TV alone - can't remember the last time I switched it on to watch by myself, although there's nothing I can't wait to watch.

I find people who watch TV seperately while in the house together odd, it's something only done communally in our house though we never made that a rule, it evolved naturally perhaps due to only having one TV used as a TV (and a different one in the other room for gaming or kids' sleepover DVD watching).

inwood · 04/09/2019 16:02

Husband saves stuff for me to get home, otherwise we get out of whack with the whole series. I work a lot with the west cost of USA so my times are pretty out.