To say this person is not interested

[IceAndASlice123]

In a friendship when twice they have replied to texts very late and said 'Sorry, I thought I had replied to you.' But you know they reply quickly to everyone else.

For the record, I am not bombarding them with messages.

I do that- to everyone! I’m forgetful when it comes to WhatsApp- I close down notifications to answer later and forget. I’m working on it as I know it’s rude.

How do you know she’s only doing it to you?

Me and my friends do this to each other. We all know the other one didn't 'forget' or think they had replied. In reality, sometimes people just can't be bothered getting into a conversation at that particular time. It's not a personal thing, I wouldn't worry about it x

I do that too, I don't mean to but I've got two small children and a busy life, my phone isn't a priority in any way.

YABU.

Do you know for a fact that other people get replies straight away? Have you tried to discuss this with the friend? This has happened only twice but seems to be causing you great upset; why is that? Maybe they are avoiding you but the best thing to do is talk to them and find out!

My feeling is that you must be quite young to be so upset by this. People have lives to live and things happening. Without sounding too harsh, the world doesn't revolve around you.

I'm terrible for replying to messages. My friends know this, they also know I'm juggling 50 bazillion things at a time and being human I do forget. It isn't personal. However as friends they don't judge or loose sleep over it, they just accept I am a scatterbrain with a hectic life.

I was there for them when they were struggling emotionally. They would text me up to 5 times a day very upset. After a few months they met a new partner and friends and she will reply to all of them but not me. I know this because I also know the mutual friends.
I'm starting to think I just remind them of the bad times. It's fine, I won't be in touch anymore with them. I also will make sure I am not there if the relationship ends. Don't want to be the temporary stopgap until a better person /more exciting people come along.

OP I have had this done to me and what you have said is IMO absolutely spot on. They look at you and know you KNOW them unlike anyone else. And that’s fine, but they will come crawling back. MH is awful, I have suffered terribly. But some people take the fucking piss.

I agree PP.
I know now that I have to take a step back for my own sanity. I won't be their fall back guy or made to feel like I am not as important as all these new and exciting people. I won't be there if it all falls apart either.