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Play park incident

101 replies

Cleari · 03/09/2019 16:21

There was a little girl in the park, about 6 I’d say. I was with 6,5,4 year olds and she wanted to play with them.

First she hopped on the big tyre swing at the same time, I smiled and tried to acknowledge mum. Little girl was chatty but mum watched stone faced as I pushed them all. Moved away as slightly awkward but the girl followed so I tried to be pleasant, girls happy to include her.

My 3 then went to a mini roundabout thing, small disc about chest height to the kids. Lifted my three on and she stood there, so I offered to lift her. Tried to look at mum who stayed silently watching expressionless but staring with a friend. Little girl said she wanted to push. I suggested again she get on, she said again she wanted to push and started. Quite a confident child and very sure. All 4 giggling, I stood very close very to stop it if needed. She was strong enough to do it.

Mum suddenly goes mad. Storms over screaming at me and yanks daughter away shouting ‘what the fuck you playing at?’ I was bemused and just stood and said ‘she wanted to push, she seemed happy’ (as I said I was closely watching)’. This made mum really cross- what you fucking doing? She could be hurt! You fucking let a child push! My daughter is not there to fucking push your kids. She not some fucking servant to you

Her and her mate then stood about 15ft away having a loud shout about how I needed a slap, thought I was fucking better than them all etc on repeat

Aibu that this was bizarre?

Only details I can think of, I’m dressed scruffy and no one calls me posh. She was a bit younger maybe. All of us the same race.

It was quite nerve wracking as there were two, and I was alone with kids- two of whom were mine. It’s playing in my mind- was there a way to diffuse this? I didn’t answer beyond that as I was outnumbered and alone with kids, and didn’t want to fire it. I just moved the kids calmly to a different area where other parents were

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ellzebellze · 03/09/2019 17:25

Well she was dragged up in the gutter, wasn't she? Poor little child, no wonder she came over to be with your dc, with a mother like that.

Crunched · 03/09/2019 17:25

I hope this doesn’t put you off using the park Cleari, these incidents can be upsetting but you were doing nothing wrong in the slightest.

Deelish75 · 03/09/2019 17:25

You didn’t do anything wrong, but I do think as a society people are getting more and more angrier and looking for fights.

Reminds me of an incident I had last year. I was driving, only me in queue at traffic lights, pulled away, the road was clear and in the distance I saw a pedestrian on the opposite pavement step out to cross road. Once he was on my side he stopped and starred at my car. I stopped about 3 metres away from him, he’s shouting at me to let him cross the fucking road, that I should fucking wait then he started walking towards my car, luckily a van with three men in it pulled up behind me so the man the finished crossing the road and walked past me as though nothing had happened. I have no idea who the man was, I drive that road every day at around the same time and fortunately I’ve never seen him since. (Did invest in dash cam just in case)

It’s horrible when strangers just start on you for no reason especially when you’ve got small children with you (DD then 3 was in the car) but hopefully you’ll never see her again - if you do maybe try and get a sneaky photo of her in case she kicks off again.Flowers

mankyfourthtoe · 03/09/2019 17:27

I was a childminder and had this often, I was way more fun than the parents that stand there.
All requests are met with, go ask mummy to do it, go get mummy to help etc.
If you help it'll be your fault.

Billben · 03/09/2019 17:28

thought I was fucking better than them all

Generally comes from the mouths of scum.

Marvinmarvinson · 03/09/2019 17:31

She was after an argument with you and that's why she was watching you. If you'd lifted the kid on she'd have had a go at you for touching her child, if you'd shoo'd her away she'd have had a go at you for excluding her.

Cleari · 03/09/2019 17:32

I think @mankyfourthtoe has it. Repeat ‘mummy can....’ or ‘as mummy to...’ a bit more.

I don’t even entertaining extra kids, so I need to back off.

(Wot, she not good enough to talk to yours????? Can see it now...)

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coolandcalm17 · 03/09/2019 17:52

This mother will be a teachers nightmare. Constantly spoiling for a fight.

pottedshrimps · 03/09/2019 17:57

I blame soap operas and the jeremy kyle type programmes. People like this believe they're supposed to be angry and confrontational all the time. Everything's a drama. It's pathetic really as they don't know how to behave in real life.

Sarahandco · 03/09/2019 17:58

You did nothing wrong at all. Most parents are really pleased when their children are able to join in with others at the park. She should have come over and lifted her on.

She sounds very irrational and I would say this is not a normal reaction at all.

Nomoremilk · 03/09/2019 17:59

She sounds totally rough. Imagine being brought up by someone like that? What a depressing shit show.

Harriett123 · 03/09/2019 18:00

Not your fault at all. The person I feel most sorry for is her child. I'm guessing this is not the first or last time this woman has done something like that.
It's a sure fire way to mess up your kid.

BlueJava · 03/09/2019 18:00

It doesn't sound like you didn't anything wrong, that must have been frightening. Do you think she could have taken something? Sounds a very weird reaction/odd behaviour.

Rachelover40 · 03/09/2019 18:07

What an awful woman! So rude and using foul language in front of children.

Walk away with head held high, Clearl. You did nothing wrong.

That poor child.....I wonder what it's like living with a mum like hers.

cathcath2 · 03/09/2019 18:10

You did nothing wrong!

Bananaboy9 · 03/09/2019 18:12

What a weirdo!!! You did nothing wrong

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 03/09/2019 18:13

It sounds like she was spoiling for fight.
The stone faced nasty bitch.
You didn’t do anything wrong

IHaveBrilloHair · 03/09/2019 18:17

You just met one of life's strange people.
You did nothing wrong.
Hope you and kids are feeling ok, that would've really shaken me. Flowers

Longlongsummer · 03/09/2019 18:20

I find this behaviour disturbing, what an angry horrible mum she is. You didn’t do anything wrong.

I’d have got my own kids out of there sharpish. She was talking about slapping you in front of all the kids? What a horrible person.

TrainspottingWelsh · 03/09/2019 18:21

Yanbu. Bet she was wearing pj bottoms and a circle of foundation 6 shades darker than her skin. Poor kid.

At least you’ve identified the local dick and can do your best to avoid in future.

LinoleumBlownapart · 03/09/2019 18:21

I agree with others, she sounds like she was looking for a fight. Not sure what was making her tick. But the fact that she was Stoney faced and watching makes me think she was waiting for her moment to strike. Whatever you said or did, she was looking for something. Not sure why that would be a person's mission though.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 03/09/2019 18:22

I think you are better than her, too.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 03/09/2019 18:22

She sounds like a right chav with a chip on her shoulder so I wouldn't worry about it

Longlongsummer · 03/09/2019 18:24

She doesn’t necessarily have to be a ‘chav’ or of a certain class to be acting so horrible... let’s be careful we don’t tar every poor person with the same brush!

Some people wear tracksuits, have nothing but are great mums.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 03/09/2019 18:27

Chav doesn't always mean those of a lower social class....it also refers to being behaving brash and loutish

I know lots of well off people who are also a bit chavvy 🤣

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