7 year old

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Posted a few weeks ago about 7 year old who was being really emotional and overreacting to things. After listening to people l decided it was just end of term tiredness and a comedown after a fantastic school report/excellent sats and a successful sports day. However after a few weeks of no school, l feel like she has upped her game. Cried most days about non events, become super stroppy whenever she is asked to do something and started attention seeking (which even my mum who thinks she can do no wrong has noticed!). Was offloading to a friend today who said her son has said he has found my daughter quite bossy lately, which l can't deny. Is this another phase that will pass do we think or do l need to do something fast?! I am sticking to the old ignore bad behaviour (unless it is really bad and affecting other people) and praise good (which in fairness there is quite a lot of too) but wondering if this is the right tactic. So more of a WWYD than AIBU. Thanks in advance.

Sorry just to add we have lots of conversations about being mindful of the way we talk to others

How's home life?

Has anything changed lately in the family or with her friends?

It is all good - nothing has changed at all. Her dad and l are happily married, we all just had a lovely week away together. Only thing is no school so have been out of routine lately x

This isn’t going to help, but it could go one of two ways. 1) it’s a phase and she will grow out of it 2) she’s going to be a bossy little Madame and hard work when she’s a teen. But you know your daughter, and you will know if it’s a phase or personality deep down.

Children are so perceptive, it could come from anywhere - someone they've seen on tv, at school, on the bus, in the playground, on the beach. It sounds to me that you're doing the right things, it doesn't sound like she's actually being horrible just hard work at times.

My 2.5 year old dd has been bossy since her first words but I know she gets it from me.

I have a slightly tempremental/bossy 8 year old dd so i feel your pain.
Something that has worked really well for us is trying to focus her on the idea of kindness. Talking to her about how friends and others feel when they play together, isn't is sad if one person doesn't get a turn, or feels left out. How important it is to think about that and be kind, make sure everyone has a say etc.
Similarly at home, how do you think it makes dad feel when he's been at work all day and is excited so spend time with us and all we're doing is bickering? What about when mum has spent an hour making a yummy healthy dinner and you turn your nose up at it. I guess we've been going down the empathy/awareness of other peoples feelings route. May be a bit strong for your dd but has worked wonders with mine.

Have you thought about high functioning autism my daughter is 6 and exactly the same, never thought of it as she excels at school etc until I spoke to a doctor about challenging behaviour and since researching autism in girls it's so obvious to me now and once u know what something is it's easier to put things in place to help her.