I had a very traumatic first birth with my son leading to an emcs. When I got pregnant a couple of years later with my second they were trying to talk me into a vbac, I did my research but realised that mentally I couldn’t cope with another long and traumatic labour and birth which may end in emcs anyway. At my 18 week consultant appointment she was trying to give me vbac pamphlets and I told her “I want a section” she again tried to push the vbac leaflets on me, so I politely said “I will get this baby out with a bread knife if I have to I am not going through that again” she just laughed and said “no problem let’s book your date!” 
Honestly, when I got to the labour ward to be prepped and I was back in the room I had been in a couple of years previously it all came flooding back and I knew if i’d tried for a natural birth I would have gone into full blown panic mode, I was sooooo thankful I had made the decision to have a planned section.
The two section experiences literally couldn’t have been anymore different, the planned section was very relaxed, I got to hold and cuddle my baby first (this meant EVERYTHING!) and they even lowered the screen so I could see her actually being born (and no I couldn’t see any gore! I was awestuck it was so surreal) it was an amazing experience. I recovered really quickly, off painkillers after a few days and driving after a couple of weeks. With my first I had ended up with a severe infection, painkillers and antibiotics for a month and a severe case of the baby blues! Honestly it couldn’t have been a more different experience the second time around!
Take the experience you had to plan more effectively this time. I knew I needed to focus on rest to recover as quickly as possible. First born went to his grandparents for a few days (dad went back to have meals with him, took him home overnight, etc). I limited visitors to only parents at the hospital. I asked visitors to stay always for the first few days at home (except parents and siblings) and dad did the first two nights of feeds so I could catch up on all the sleep missed at hospital. I recovered really quickly thanks to this, and came off the meds as soon as I felt I could cope which made my head less fuzzy.
That’s just my experience, everyone is different so you have to work out what is best for you. Focus on the outcome not the birth, it’s just a means to an end anyway really anyway, focus on what you want from the experience. I really wanted to be the first one to hold the baby (I didn’t get to first time around) I discussed this with the midwife/surgeons etc before going in and they were so supportive, I literally had hold of her for maybe 20 mins while they were stitching me up (I was in such a rush of hormones I literally didn’t feel a thing after that point!), that coupled with actually seeing her born was a really healing experience after such a dreadful first birth. I was so glad I had that chance.
Focus on what you want to heal or feel and go with the best way to achieve that 