I feel so horrid writing this or saying it out loud, but my mother in law and father in law actually are both annoying me big time. They have brought up a lovely son, who loves and looks after me. He is a wonderful son and husband. So I give them credit for that. They have been relatively kind to me too. But now that I am pregnant, my inlaws make comments which put me on edge. For example, my mother in law was hovering around when my husband and I were discussing day care options, she butts in snd says, I am not comfortable with the baby going to daycare. I will quit my job to look after this baby. Another time she said, I have picked out baby names that I will tell you later. When we have friends over to visit and they let me hold their babies, she comes and snatches the baby out of my arms and says things like - have your tea, let me help ypu etc. My father in law chimes in when my husband offers me something to eat and says - thats not good for her. Recently he told my husband when I go back to work, the baby would stay with them. He even got upset when we bought a second hand crib for the baby. He said never again buy second hand things for my grand child. I don’t see what the fuss is about. My husband and I like loving comfortably but below our means. We want our child also to be that way. A baby is not going to tell the difference anyway. I guess what I am trying to say is that he made us feel like we were not doing the best for our child.
I am very uncomfortable with this. Especially because my own parents never force their opinions on me or my husband. I try to be kind and firm, but I don’t want to hurt them. They are decent people compared to some total clowns out there..
But this is our baby..and I need to establish some boundaries.. Anyone with similar experiences? Am I being paranoid?