Is this normal FWB behaviour

[bubblesandfun]

I've name changed for this but I've been here a while- I know; not to ask about p&c parking, that parking disputes must include a diagram, daily mail steal stuff, naice ham, penis beaker, shopping lists...........

So I'm new to this having never been with a man before, I'd only ever been with women until 6 months ago. So the other night I was really upset bad day, bout of depression, etc I told him all this (we are good friends then became FWB recently. He called saying it was to see if I was okay and that he wanted to hear what was upsetting me, it then became apparent he only called because he wanted to use my voice to get off too, even though I was crying and a mess. I hung up he then sent a dick pick and asked for pics of me. I declined. Is this normal FWB/male behaviour?

It’s not normal human being behaviour, and it’s not how friends act.
Sort you were treated like this

FWBs are normally light and fun, no heavy stuff - purely sex. It looks like you want more than this, and he can’t give you that - I would cut it off if I were you.

Nope!! That's crass twat behaviour! He is not your friend now. What a bastard!

@Sparklesocks no I definitely don't want more than that. It was him that insisted on calling after I'd said I wasn't up for chatting.

I think it’s normal for a primate

He's not a friend

How on earth were you ever friends with such a sleaze? To be honest, I wouldn’t say it’s normal friends with benefits behaviour leaning on them emotionally re mental health problems but he’s acted appallingly. Stop seeing him.

@bubblesandfun

There aren't rules OP, you don't need to officially categorise his behaviour as normal / abnormal for a FWB.

You're allowed to just think he's a thoughtless cunt and for that to turn you off enough not to want to see him anymore.

Really sorry you're feeling low

Sounds more like a fuck buddy than a fwb

@Yeahnahyeah1 I know though we were friends first so maybe friends we sleep together sometimes would be a more accurate description.

Nope. Thats not how friends act.
I would cut off his benefits for that.

Fair enough. My point still stands that he’s gross tho. Fuck him off.

You deserve much more

Pretty much normal for fwb, it’s meant to be for sex and getting off

Not normal! FWB should be casual mutual fun.

Getting off on someone else who is clearly upset isn’t something any kind of “friend” would do. Or in fact any decent human being!

Ditch him, invest in a vibrator and stick to friends who actually support and respect you.

Sounds like it's the benefits he wants - without offering friendship.

unfortunately once their dick is involved then, for some men, everything is dick led

I agree with the comment that it’s normal for an ape. It’s weird and appalling. Who on earth thinks about sex / wanking when they are on the phone to someone distressed - unless they are a bit emotionally dead?

He sounds vile.

However, a ‘FWB’ relationship is meant to be a commitment-free, fun thing where you have sex without all the angst of a relationship. So I would certainly not expect him to want to listen to you crying and talking about depression etc, which is quite intense. You clearly want an emotional investment from him which you will not get from a FWB. So yes, he behaved badly, but you’re also expecting a FWB to behave like a boyfriend or girlfriend (or even just a female friend) instead of accepting FWB for what it’s meant to be, which is basically sex when you fancy it without a relationship.

He sounds exactly like a so called bloke who wanted to be with me. He isn’t name Nathan is he? I’m sorry your having a rubbish time, I totally understand what your going through, I’ve cried all day. Feel free to PM me. Seriously, get rid he’s a disgusting excuse for a human being x

What a complete twat.