Our son is making his confirmation next April but its right bang in the middle of my final year exams. Initially myself and my husband agreed that it would be easier to go out to dinner afterwards with our family. So I got a price for the dinner and provisionally booked it. Now my husband thinks we should do it at home because of the cost of the meal. This has annoyed me as I'll be the one doing all the cleaning and organising while he is working away. I suggested that we save the money after Xmas so at least then it won't be a big expense on the day if we put it aside. But he thinks we would save a few hundred euros which we probably would if its done at home. I will be doing an exam a few days before it plus the remaining exams the 2 weeks after. Plus it'll be me getting everything ready and I know I'll be stressed out(we did the last confirmation at home and I didn't get a minute to myself to sit down and enjoy the food or relax ) The house will need to painted inside and I'll have to buy new glasses, cutlery etc as what we have are on their last legs, fine for us but I wouldn't be giving to guests to use. So will end up buying this stuff anyway and having to spend money. I guess the reason I'm upset is I feel he's not taking my considerations into perspective. For my exams this year I never left the books for 6 weeks solidly before the exams so I could do without the hassle of an event in the middle of it. plus it would be great to be handed a plate of food without any stress. He's now saying that we'll go out so then so basically itll suit me!!? . Its not like we can't afford it especially if we put a few quid aside but I'm the one ending up feeling crap now cos I didn't go with his suggestion. Sorry I probably just wanted to vent too about it.