Sorry, this might be long but I'm terribly upset and thinking of going NC with my mother. All my life I have tolerated her and now I think I've finally had enough of her.
I'm 22. She still thinks she has a hold of me and can control my life and the choices that I make. I have a child of my own ffs.
She dislikes my partner, we've been together for 4 years now and she's always been so hostile towards him. She was the same way with my brothers long term girlfriend. She's very cold and standoffish - it comes across as rude. We don't know why she is like this, but it has made relationships very difficult.
Anyway, my DP had had enough and said he wanted nothing more to do with her. I really don't blame him. She's insufferable and I'm sick of making excuses for the way she is all the time.
Now she is angry at me because he has turned around and said this. I've been stuck in the middle. We are moving house and she wants us to live nearer to her. Obviously I have said no, we are old enough to choose where we want to live and to be quite honest I don't want to live anywhere near her, neither does my partner.
We have found a lovely house that happens to be near my MILs. MIL is absolutely lovely and we have a close relationship and she's great with our DC. My mum has interpreted this totally wrong and has told me that I've given in to DP by moving closer to his family.
I'm fed up now and sick of living to please her. I visited her house today and my baby DS was sleeping, she kicked off massively and started screaming, resulting in my baby crying at the noise. It's honestly broken my heart but I just don't know what to do anymore.
Please, what do I do in this situation? 