Should ds come despite his horrible cough?

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Ds is 18 and soon leaving to start university. This weekend sil has booked a flat for us all to stay in while we have a weekend away and to visit family up there (there’s a birthday involved so it couldn’t be any other date). I really want ds to come but he has this awful cough! It’s a reinfection of whooping cough. Not contagious and he’s fine apart from the cough. He really wants to go but dh is saying ds shouldn’t come as no one will get any sleep.
Ds is really upset and I feel bad for him.
Aibu to just let him come with us anyway or maybe I should stay at home with him seeing as it’s our last weekend with him?

I'm with your DH on this one. If your DS's coughing is going to disrupt the sleep of others then your DS shouldn't go. It's disrespectful to the others.

Depending on the type of cough, it can be very off-putting and make others want to vomit.

It doesn't matter what your DS wants.

Thanks, I guess you’re right. I will stay with him at home. Unless it magically disappears by then.

Pholcodine linctus?
As long as it is a dry cough.

Could you get hotel rooms or separate Air B&B for him and you? Or bring earplugs for everyone else?? Think it's a bit mean of your husband to ban him from coming.

I think your DH should stay home if sleep is more important and you and DS go with out him

He's 18 for goodness sake, what on earth are you and your dh doing deciding for him where he can and can't go?! And someone staying home with him? Are you serious or have I misread and he's actually 18 months?

Play it by ear (literally) and see how the cough is by Thursday night. It could have cleared by then. There are cough medicines that can suppress a cough at night, ask your pharmacist about them - may be prescription only.

If there are no newborns or elderly who might stress out about catching a cough I would definitely bring him. If I was SIL having nephew there would be worth putting up with a bit of coughing. If DH is so bothered book a hotel for DS/himself.

Perhaps ask SIL her opinion? Might make your husband see sense. Or if she says no it shows you they are highly strung and ds is best to avoid.