Can I just have a rant....

[itsmonday]

About the fact my husband thought it acceptable to tell me to 'stop talking now coz you're boring me? I'm bored to fuck listening to you so just stop'

All because he was u set pressure doing some diy??

It’s not acceptable. People weirdly seem to be most abusive to people they proclaim to love.
I don’t know your normal verbal dynamic but I don’t need to - it’s hurt you, so that’s what matters.
Do you feel you can tell him this though?

Oh he knows, this isn't the first time but I'm fed up trying to help him through his moments of madness - which are happening all too often at the moment. I'm tired. Im drained and im pulling his favourite stunt - complete emotional and verbal withdrawal - in order to save my own sanity. It's pathetic isn't it

Seems that he was struggling to accomplish whatever DIY he was doing. He shouldn't of spoken to you like that. Did he apologise after?

I find the best thing in those sorts of situation is to make them a cuppa and leave them to sort it.
Helpful Suggestions seem to make them bristle

The kindest of men can be a bit cranky doing DIY.

However, that sounds completely unacceptable OP.

I wouldn't accept being spoken to like that.

Don't put up with it.

He was under serious pressure and didn't like my blasé attitude towards the task but my reasons for being blasé were because he stresses and expects me to tell him exactly what to do but when I get too involved he cracks up and tells me I'm bossing him about! I can never do the right thing and it's frustrating only being allowed to have input to something when he decides I'm allowed so I told him what I wanted done and helped him with the spacing of the pictures then left him to it.... he thinks this attitude is totally acceptable. It's not and I'm so sick and tired of it

Are you upset by the fact that your H told you you were boring him or by the fact that he was bored by you? Is it better to have some honesty in the relationship? Can you talk about the fact that you want to talk about stuff and he doesn’t want to listen? I’m asking these questions because this is something I’ve faced with my H and we’ve reached a point where we can joke about our differences. I have accepted that my H does not fulfill all my needs in terms of chat and that I get that from my friends instead. My H is never going to want to chat as much as I want to.

I'm upset as it was said with anger and maliciousness. It wasn't said as a truth, he just said to get me to stop talking, he spat the words at me. If he thought I was boring I wouldn't mind!