Child access

[Mrbeecee]

My ex partner has stopped all access to my son our relationship has been awful for a long time we split up and she moved out only to find out she was pregnant and since then I have had nothing but constant threats about seeing my son we ended up trying again but living separate but every time we argued it was the same story you’ll have nothing to do with my son. Fast forward 12 months she’s been to court to get a order on me to not contact her and the court have granted it now I’m stuck as what to do next there is another date set for access but that’s 5 weeks away and she’s saying she wants me to have supervised access when I have a 4yo daughter that’s been living with my for 3 days a week since me and her mom split 3 years ago can she just say that and lie and will court side with her ?

She's a control freak her other child has no bond with there dad due to her not letting him have access blocking him deleting him for reasons that have nothing to do with the welfare of his child playing god with her children's lives why because she can and I have no problems with women in general but ones that think they can play god with there children's relationships with there dads is not cool at all I'm sure in time I'll get to see my son as I should but is there any need to lie and try to stop a good dad being a farther to his son because we are not together anymore no that's the bottom line I'm not being unreasonable asking to see my son twice a week for 2-3 hrs until he's old enough to stay the night never had any problems with my daughters mom allowing me to see my daughter we help each other and make the best life for our child but obviously that's not a option for my ex she has to be awkward and score points like a child and make everything hard work for no reason

What other child? Am I missing something here? I heard the OP has another child?

Sorry but you won’t get any sympathy from most of the women on here. They hate men and defend women not matter what. Good luck x

Name change fail @ifonlyiwoukd

Totally losing the point, but You've had two children with 2 different women in the space of 4 years. You should really learn how to use condoms. I feel sorry for the kids tbh.

Well she was letting you see him till you took him have you ever considered she might be finding things hard and your attitude doesn't help? She might shockingly be in love with you and that's why she is finding it hard to separate being together and you seeing your son

Also you clearly didn't gave an issue with her ex not having contact while you were together so I'm assuming you believed she had a valid reason at the time?

She is entitled to take her child away for a week. You went round and took the baby away from its mother. No wonder she's asking for supervision for visits!
Go to court, play by the rules and don't take your child away again without permission as you'll put yourself at more risk of not seeing him again.

The issue is clearly that you took matters into your own hands. Instead of using the courts, who may have been on your side, you took the baby away, which clearly was not in his best interests. As a result, you have shown you cannot act responsibly during contact. This is on you, despite the restrictions your ex put in place.

No valid reason control is the answer I went along with it because I would get stopped seeing him if I didn't it was ok when she went swanning off for the day to look after him on my own but if I made plans to take him to see my daughter for a couple of hours I wasn't allowed ( when it suited her )

Iv noticed @zebraaa I'm sure I'll get my days in time and the weapon user will get found out 😊

Weapon user?this is the mother on one of your children calling her weapon user is fucking nasty at best

I fucking despair sometimes

Maybe you should use protection next time so you dont get three kids by three different mothers or choose your partners more carefully or take responsibility for your own actions?

You’re full of shit op. Coming on a mums forum to get support bold as brass but mums on here are right though manipulative bullies like you acting like you give a shit. They have lived through it. Try fathers for justice with you lies and bull shit sob stories or some abusive mens club.

Best thing you can do is jump through the hoops court and social services are going to set for you.

It was a daft move taking him without consent for an overnight stay as I can imagine this caused his mum to be terribly worried and like a pp said, did you take him by force or sneak him out? The court will see this as you are posing a risk to your son by behaving in this manner.

I have had a close friend go through this sort of thing a couple of years back and although he was massively in the wrong (drinking and drug taking lead to a domestic incident with his then gf) his child’s mother was informed via the police and the police then have a duty to inform social services of the domestic.

Cafcass and social services were round, he had to attend parenting classes amongst other things as the mother did too and It took him 9 month to see his son again unsupervised. Prior to this he was seeing him in a contact centre Every Saturday and had to pay £75 a time.

Id get some legal advice and prepare to go to court but you can’t go around acting like you have, there’s a reason the court has granted the order.

Hope it works out for you all

Overnight access isn't granted for young babies for a reason. You took a very young 3 month old baby away from his mother and primary carer. It is not about equality but nature. Tbh if I was her, I doubt I would forgive you for that. PND, breastfeeding, anxiety in mum and baby all those things can be interrupted or triggered by your actions.

After you "checked" on her when she told you she wasn't in and then took the baby I see why see got a no contact order. She may have been wrong initially but you took it to a whole new level of wrong.