AIBU to just leave my job

[GinAndBubbles]

I have a career and am the breadwinner (earn more than double my DH does). I left a great role just over 2 years ago as they moved the base location to another city and I did not want to relocate.

Got a role in a completely different company, less than 100 employees, but worked hard and secured a director role.

The owner and his ‘lap dog’, the MD, were not good people and I felt for my own well-being I had to leave. Since then around 20 other people have, including 90% of the department I managed, plus the COO, Head of HR etc.

I accepted a perm role in a lower grade job, but for a global company and £8k more than my previous one.

Here’s the problem, I hate it. They have matrix management so my ‘task’ manager really dislikes me as he feels they’ve bought me in to oust him, so gives me the run around and is rude to me. My line manager and the director both seemed great throughout the interviews but now seem to never back up their words with actions.

The job itself is pretty easy but boring, I know long term it’s not for me, but I dread going in each day.

1 week notice and have applied for 30+ perm and contract roles but nothing solid yet.

DH says sod it just don’t go back, not worth feeling like this. My heart says the same but head says there are bills to pay) despite great salary my ££ went on holidays and not savings (lesson learned, no judgement please). My mother says stick it out.

Desperately seeking thoughts?!

If you can’t pay the bills out of your husband’s salary, then it would be irresponsible to leave without another job to go to. Sorry.

It's not a great time to get another job at the moment. I took redundancy six months ago and have had to take a temporary position at a lower level just to get by.

Maybe stay until you have something to go to.

You are always more employable when you are employed.

So:

• Left a job as company moved and you weren't relocating (understandable),

• Next job the bosses were awful so left that, (along with many other staff) (understandable too),

• Next, current, job is boring and doesn't stretch you etc so you want to leave (understandable).

But this is all happening in a 2 to 3 year timeframe.

Unfortunately this will not look good on your CV. As there are often many applicants for most jobs nowadays a lot of employers will initially skim over CVs to quickly weed out what they would see as weaker candidates to narrow it down so there are fewer candidates to look into in more detail. Dh recently went through searching for a job and 'employment professionals' told him that having more than a couple of jobs short term tended to make prospective employers think you weren't going to stick with a job for long so they would weed you out early on in the process. This way they don't even get to look into what you can bring to the company, all they think is that you won't stay long so they will have to go through the recruitment process again in 6 to 12 months, and they don't want to do that. (Temporary positions are different, but that tends to be noted on a CV so isn't the same as leaving a permanent job soon after starting it.)

If at all possible I would recommend you try to stick it out in this job until you secure a new position elsewhere. Looks better on your CV if you don't have a lot of gaps between jobs too. Of course, if it affects your mental health negatively it can be worthwhile leaving if you need to, but only if you have to.

Hope you find a more suitable job very soon.

You sound like you're very capable and employable. My gut is something more solid will come in the near future and you just gotta stick this one out until it does.

Moving companies every two to three years is acceptable.

If you’re in a large global company now, is there room for growth/advancement or other positions? I’d continue to look outside for a role but also internally.

If you need this money to live, then you don’t just quit. Start saving your money so in case you can’t sort out the working environment, transfer into another role and a new job elsewhere doesn’t materialise, then you have something to fall back on if you really can’t stand staying longer. But if you do that, you and DH need to cut back and live within a smaller budget until you find next job.

Before quitting give yourself a set timeline to try to see if there Are there ways of managing this task manager or ensure you have a record of what they tell you to and what you do. Then if still on going insist on a meeting w line manager first and or HR and say you’re having difficulty working w task manager. If they don’t change how you work w task manager (by now you’ll have saved some too) then quit.

You're more employable if you are in a role already. It will also mean it's less stressful if it takes time securing a new role. If you bail now and you start to struggle to pay the bills, you could end up taking something that again, isn't suitable and you're back to square one.

Whilst in this day and age it's accepted that people will move every two to three years, it's only accepted up to a point until it can have a negative impact.

You can't just leave as we have Brexit! Keep applying and planning to leave, life is short.

Thank you all for your varied opinions!

My post was long so was conscious not to add more to it, but I’ve been considering not adding this current position to my CV, and just saying I had the summer off so it doesn’t look like I’ve jumped around.

All in all I’ve zero regrets about leaving my other role, I just need to put my hands up and say I’ve made a duff move into my current one.

I’m looking for contract and perm roles as for my own sanity I need to move on, it’s the when (ie with something lined up or not) that I’m so conflicted on, and your comments have helped with.

The line manager is genuinely not nice to me, for example others in the team have said without prompting that he wouldn’t speak to them as he spoke to me.

I can’t look for another role in this company, despite it being massive, until my 6 month probation is up.

It’s Monday morning, a new week, I’m going to try again, and hound the job sites again, whilst keeping everything crossed!

PS does everyone think BREXIT will have a massive impact on job market? In the last few roles I’ve been in they’ve not been expecting too much of an impact?