Last month I asked my partner for space as we've been struggling with our relationship for a while. The last straw for me was that he went on an expensive all inclusive holiday with his father even though we've not been on holiday together for 3 years. I only found out after he booked it. The day he came back he went out with the lads for work again found out that same day. To top everything off 2 weeks later he went away for the weekend with a female work colleague and her son. I wasn't asked if I wanted to go and when I asked where they were staying got a very vague answer. The day after I left he changed the locks of the house and now won't let me in to collect any belongings even though we've been together over 20 years.
An insight into my life is that I'm a housewife due to not being able to work through ill health, I'm expected to do everything which is fine as I don't work. However it got to the stage where I had to have a cup of coffee ready when he came home. His tea had to be on the table by a certain time and he did nothing at all in the house. Nothing was ever good enough. He always put me down and never supported me financially with me having to pay my bills and food from the benefits I received even though he has a really good job. He also wouldn't tell me anything important ie how much he earned, what was left on the mortgage, debt he was in etc.
I was just wondering if this is normal behaviour as now I'm out of the situation it seems wrong and very controlling. Would people class this as abuse.