hasn’t showered

[Woarr]

In 5 days

Thought I could smell something . With my pregnant nose .

He HAS been busy . helps me a
Lot .

But we’ve been out for coffee , he’s been going to the gym .

AIBU to feel really angry he won’t shower more often.

Even after I’ve told him he smells ( felt sick in the car with him ) he hasn’t showered yet !

And why do I feel so bad writing his down about someone so wonderful in every other way .

sounds like a bunch of tramps to me

When he asks you why you are sleeping on the couch/guest room, tell him.
Just say you can't do this, and that he can wait months to shower, but you won't be sleeping in your bed.

It's a no-brainer to him, he is being deliberately stuffy.

I haven’t gone bananas on him because he has been looking after us a lot

This is rubbish, stop making excuses for him. If he has time to sit down and watch a movie he has time to wash himself. If he has time to go to the gym daily, he DEFINITELY has time to shower!

Look, you’re having a baby with this man. You owe it to yourself and to your child to be able to have healthy and direct conversations with your husband.

Yesterday I took my DCs to soft play. There was a bloke standing about near the table I was sitting at. He smelt revolting--really bad BO. Even worse, he kept telling his kids they were leaving but then hung around for ages longer.
People need daily showers / proper washes. It doesn't take long. Tell him he stinks.

Perhaps we are no longer used to 'natural' body scent.

Just a thought....

He must smell revolting, speak up and tell him he stinks, he needs proper hygiene in place before your babys born

Perhaps we are no longer used to 'natural' body scent.

Agreed. We’re definitely not. Thank goodness.

We’re also no longer used to pissing in a chamber pot, or washing our clothes in lye. But let’s not hurry back to those either.

*Perhaps we are no longer used to 'natural' body scent.

Just a thought....*

So? We don’t live in the turn of the 20th century. We live in 2019 and clean bodies are nicer.

I once toured the house the Bronte family lived in as youngsters. Someone on the tour brought up how stinky people must have been and the tour guide helpfully pointed out how the constant smoke from the coal fires and the nearly ubiquitous smoking of tobacco in pipes would have covered up some of the honk.

Perhaps we are no longer used to 'natural' body scent

Did you hand write that by candlelight and post it to mumsnet? Rather than using an unnatural electronic device

Have you said something?

I wouldn't even pussyfoot around this. If he's not ill or depressed, it'd be "get in the fucking shower". I have much experience of soap-dodging young teen boys - I make them shower every morning since they started secondary school - it's a habit now. I would treat my Dh like this too (although I don't have to).

I’m pleased to say he has showered : )

Also seems to be apologising by doing some diy too .

No he’s not always like this but just seems to let the showering slide on occasion

He let the ‘showering slide’ - for FIVE days??? No, there’s more to this. Nobody does that. One day yes, we’ve all done that, five days, nope. Never done that in my whole life.
Even when my bathroom was removed for nearly a week (nightmare) I was washing in the kitchen in a large tub trug bucket on the weekend days, and showering at work on the weekdays and cleaning teeth in the kitchen.

There’s more to this but tbh it’s not that important as long as it doesn’t happen again! Get it mopped in the bud if it does.

I would have told him to shower or fuck off and live somewhere else.
Doesn't matter how much he helps you out and come on it's not helping you out it's being a partner and doing stuff around your home.

Doing diy = apology?

Nah diy is doing stuff around your home that needs doing.