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Is 27 too young to have a 3rd child?

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hellohellow · 01/09/2019 17:54

Had my first at 20, second at 25, and I'm 27 next month.
Because I had my first so young I thought I would just get them done with however we suffered secondary infertility. Anyway DC2 arrived 5 years after his DC1.

Issue is..
I just feel like the whole of my 20s has just been revolved around children or trying for one. Don't get me wrong I love them dearly, so my question is

Should I just have my 3rd and last one soon or wait a few years?

OP posts:
Serin · 01/09/2019 18:57

Dont be daft, of course it's not.
You are not 17.

Kaykay06 · 01/09/2019 19:01

I was 22 for first (18 and I’m 40)
Then 25 for ds2, 32/33 for ds3&4 so my older two are 14 and 18 younger 2 are 8&9 easier to have them close in age I think if you’re young enough.

cookiechomper · 01/09/2019 19:04

I had my fourth at 29 and then sterilised immediately after. I think if I had waited a few years I wouldn't have had another child as my kids are just starting to get out the baby/ toddler years and starting all over again would feel like a step back.
It's challenging at times having the younger 3 kids all close in age but I don't regret it and I know that soon I'll be done with small kids and can then move onto the next stage.
Have a baby if it's the right time, don't let your age be an issue.

CazM2012 · 01/09/2019 19:10

I had my 1st at 21 and my 4th at 26, we had our own reasons for them being so close together but I like the fact I’m done with the baby stage now the youngest is almost 3.

Iflyaway · 01/09/2019 19:28

First and only at 36.

Perfect for me, got my travel, savings and professional life in before I had him.

Lidlfix · 01/09/2019 20:53

I had DD3 at 27,DD4 at 29. Then (when DD4 was 18 months) embarked on full time study which took 5 years to qualify as a secondary teacher at 36. DD1 now doing post grad DD4 15 and doing well at school, holding down part time job in a cafe. Life is good. DH and I are 45 so still have potentially 20 years to work. We are at an expensive phase in our life at present supporting DDs through degrees but we will have time to recover. Many of my colleagues are in a similar financial position but are mid 50s and are worrying about supporting DC when they want to start saving for retirement.

Also we are having the days/nights out now that we missed out on in our 20s and having a great time - and our adult DDs want to join us.

My Dtwin also has 4 DC at very different ages to my brood , she's happy but exhausted and has many years of Cubs, swimming lessons, Birthday parties to come. will be knocking on 50 before youngest goes to secondary Confused

Go for it!

MinnieSquidge · 01/09/2019 21:38

I had my 3rd (and last) at 27. I wanted to be done before I was 30. Definitely not too young (I had mine at 23, 25 and 27).

zurigirl · 01/09/2019 21:54

If you know you want a third one for sure, then I'd start now in case you have problems again. (Saying this as someone with no kids though!)

iolaus · 01/09/2019 22:05

It's up to you

I had my 3rd at 24 (2 weeks before my 25th), I then had a 4th at 32 - although I love my son having late teens and a junior school aged child has been tougher than I imagine if I'd had all 4 close together (though I can get the older ones to babysit)

ChristmasArmadillo · 01/09/2019 22:46

I’m TTC #4 and done by 30. By 40, which is still quite young really, I should have a lot of my “pre-motherhood” life back, and a lot more money to enjoy it with than I would have at 20!

SaffronFields · 01/09/2019 22:52

Go for it now and get the baby years out of the way if you really want a third.

I had DD at 26 and (if) we have another it will be before 30.

When I’m in my 30’s/ 40’s I want to be on holiday enjoying life with my older kids. I know a lot of people have children much later on now (NCT Mums I know are 35+) but honestly the thought of going through all the pregnancy/ newborn stuff at that stage in my life fills me full of terror.

blubelle7 · 01/09/2019 23:13

29 and had DS3 at 28 just before my 29th birthday. I had DS1 at 25. I went to uni, started my career and started my own business after DS1. It is hard juggling everything. My friends are late 20s to late 30s and haven't started families yet so having the time of their lives, I'm raising 3 boys and simultaneously working on my career. I hope it Pays off. I also decided to just have them all in one go after DS1. I think had I been older with DS1 I would have stopped at 1 child. The age difference between your children isn't bad so I think perfect time to ttc. Hopefully at 40ish we will be getting our lives back lol

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