My husband and I are incredibly lucky to have a beautiful 16-month old daughter. She was conceived after 4 years and 5 IVF attempts, followed by an extremely anxious pregnancy and a diagnosis of tokophobia (intense fear of childbirth) on my part. After her birth, I struggled with anxiety, mainly caused by the fact that I felt like I should be enjoying every moment as I have waited for this for so long, but in reality, parenthood was stressful, scary and relentless. I feel much, much, better now and am loving spending time with my daughter- she is charming, sleeps so much better and I love my life. However, family members are asking when we will try for another (we have three frozen embryos of average quality which we could transfer) and I feel a huge pressure to have another. My husband is unsure at the moment, but I think he is leaning towards trying for another. The thought of going through IVF again, followed by an anxious pregnancy, my tokophobia and the first couple of years with a newborn and a toddler is terrifying to me. I just don’t want to do it and want to leave the last 5 years behind and enjoy the life that I am now loving. Am I selfish in thinking this way? Should I get over myself and at least try to give my daughter a sibling? Will she miss out in not having one? Should I do it for my husband if he ultimately decides that he wants to try again? I just feel so confused with it all! Any thoughts either way would be gratefully appreciated.