I'm trying to come to terms with the way I was brought up and have made comments in the past to friends etc that I don't like the way my mum treated me when I was growing up, and also why I don't want anything to do with her. Ive blocked her number and I don't answer the door if she is there. I've also told her recently to her face in the nicest way I could that I don't want her in my life. Basically she never gave me any attention, she wouldn't even speak to me to ask how my day was etc, only shout and moan if I did things like leave a cup sitting when I'd just finished drinking out of it. She wasn't interested in coming to see me do things at school such as shows or awards (my dad had to convince her to come). She would say things like "you need to hurry up and settle down or no one will want you". I had no privacy, she would NEVER knock when coming into my room no matter what I was doing. I found her snooping around in my room one day after she thought I'd gone out, she broke my mirror and left it lying on the floor and laughed when I said to her about it. I bought a laptop for university and she used it as a coaster for a cup of coffee with her feet up on it. She basically wasn't interested in me at all. When I tried to say to her how i felt she laughed it off and said it was my fault for being to sensitive. Now as an adult I don't care if she's my mum, she shouldn't have treated me like that I don't want anything to do with her, and even though I've told her she turns up to my house for a catch up whenever she wants. I feel like that only way I'm going to get her out my life is when I'm dead. I've lost family members because I don't speak to her and feel that no one takes me seriously when I tell them I don't want to speak to her