Or when you become a mummy do you lose friends ?

[blissa1]

I had more friends before becoming a mother, I have 1 close best friend who is also a mum and a few other mummy friends but aren't close. I haven't been invited to certain events as I do have children by a friend but I do understand.. so Have you lost, kept or gained friends since becoming a mother ? Xx

Lost, but I was the first in my group to have a baby, so I was immediately no fun and not invited anywhere anymore. 8 years later and they're all popping them out but we have nothing in common anymore

Gained. Kept most of my long-standing ones and met some lovely new ones through kids' schooling and my own hobbies.

I gained loads when my child started school, clubs etc.

Lost some. Gained others.

Not surprising friendships fade when you have kids. You have less time and energy.

I haven't ever made 'mummy friends'.

I am friends with one of ds' best school friends mum. But we worked together and were friends before.

My best friend has kids similar ages, but again, we met at work.

I gained friends, from baby and toddler groups, and later when mine were at primary school. The majority of my pre-children friends never had children themselves.

I think it was a net gain, but I did lose a few good friends who were colleagues because I didn't go back to work.

I lost friends who aren’t parents themselves, but gained more who are. When you become a parent you just change as a person and there is a lot with childless people you just don’t have in common anymore.

People do move on sadly. You simply can't do the same things either because of money, child care or youre just not as flexible as childless friends ...

lost some but made new ones.

The big loss came when it became obvious that DD wasn't developing normal around 2-3 years and has some challenging behaviours (we later got a dx of autism and learning difficulties). We became totally ostracised and isolated at that point.

None of my friends who had children lost me when they became mums. I'm still around. Always will be

I am the last of my friends to start a family. How we socialised together changed a long time ago when others had babies. I had no problem changing how/when we met and kept up all these friendships. Now that I have an infant I am losing touch. They are used to me fitting in with them and have no interest in changing the dynamic. They are more interested in spending time with people who have older children too. I get it, other people’s babies are boring.