to think this division of costs is fair

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Although my DC are adults, I usually cover a lot of the costs if I go away with either of them. Partly because they earn a fair bit less than me, and also I couldn't afford to take them away much as kids due to being a single parent, low wage etc. I'm happy to do that.

There's an event next year that myself and DD have been to once before. We talked about going next year and a friend of hers coming along (I've met her friend a few times and she's lovely so no issue there).

However, due to the popularity of the event, the cheapest accommodation I've found is £1700 for the week. So I've said to DD that if we are going, I will pay £700 but her and her friend will need to pay £500 each. I'm prepared to pay a bit more as it's a 2 bed place and it's likely I'll get a room alone and they'll share (apparently I snore!). Her friend does work but again not highly paid, however they do have several months to save up between now and the event. Does this sound fair?

I’d split the room costs 50/50

So what I have learnt from this thread, is some people think I am being mean and some think I am being over generous!

As I say, the post that resonated with me the most is Zen’s. It isn’t fair for me to be out of pocket because DD’s friend is coming. The same apartment company do a one bed apartment with twin beds, which I would book if it was just me and DD and that’s a little under £1200 (I just checked) so it is costing an extra £500 for the friend to come, accommodation wise. So I don’t think it’s unfair to charge her £500. If the friend is paying £500 then DD should too. Otherwise the friend is being overcharged in comparison.

I also looked out of interest, how much it would be if said friend sourced her own accommodation and a bed in a hostel (8 beds to a tiny room) is £400 for the week. So she is getting a pretty good deal for that extra £100!