To rely on my tumble dryer.

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Bit of an odd post. I use my tumble dryer a lot. I have two kids, we go through a lot of washing. I use my washing line as much as possible but when the weathers unpredictable I shove everything I can in the dryer.

Every time my mother in law comes over. She mentions the dryer. Saying things like you need to get rid of that darn dryer, I can’t believe you are using it again, they cost so much money, I’ve always coped without one, why don’t you dry it outside (whilst it was raining), telling me it will all shrink (I’m pretty good at laundry and know how to read labels and not what to dry in them). Telling me to save all my washing until it’s sunny. I kindly explain that during the summer months I use the line as much as possible but when it’s rainy I use the dryer. I cannot wait until a sunny day to so all my washing because I would have tons to catch up on.

Its sounds stupid but every single time she comes over, when when it’s not on she makes comments on it. Is it really her problem?

I do a full load, sometimes more every day.

Aibu to not be able to cope without a dryer? How would you cope within the winter months? I don’t like it all lying around indoors to dry, my house isn’t big enough.

I've not got a dryer, because I live in a badly set out house and there is no room.
Which is fine when the weather is nice, everything goes on the line.
When it's raining or in winter I take my drying (except underwear which goes on the drying rack at home) to my mums, and stick it in her dryer.
There is only 3 of us though (me, dd and dh) so we haven't got masses of washing, I take maybe 3 loads of washing (and that's only because DHs uniform had to be done separate) and then 1 load of sheets a week.
I dont know what I would do if I could do the drying at my mums.

I'm surprised at people needing to do a full load of washing every single day?! One outfit per child, one per adult, maybe a tea towel & a couple of other odd items. It's not even nearly a full load surely, and that's assuming you wash things like jeans & jumpers after a single days wear (I dont).

Is this a stealth boast implying you another one of the mnet daily towel/bedding washers (I've never met one in RL 😂)

I can’t believe that there are people who don’t tumblr dry! I only hang shirts, proper trousers, knitwear and dresses. Everything else goes straight in the drier.

We tried not using a tumble drier but it caused awful damp and mould in our house - and that was with windows open/a dehumidifier.

We have a line outside but it rains pretty much everyday here so nothing dries easily - it's not practical to have to keep bringing things in that are more wet than they were when they were hung out, only to have to dry them indoors on the radiators anyway.

When our washing machine kicked the bucket, we replaced it with a washer/dryer and haven't looked back. In summer we do use the line if we're going to be home (so we can bring stuff in if it rains) but otherwise it's just not practical here.

Living in a damp home is unpleasant and causes all kinds of illnesses. I spent years living in a mouldy flat as we didn't have a tumble dryer - never again!

We've struggled to get things dry in winter even with a tumble drier, a hot air drier and a de-humidifier- finally got two massive clothes horses as well that sit out the way and we can keep on top.

MIl who washed for fewer people made commenst for years till we had a prolong stopped and wet weather and sudenly with wet washing everywhere and the drier constantly on she "got" the problem and no more comments.

can’t believe that there are people who don’t tumblr dry! I only hang shirts, proper trousers, knitwear and dresses. Everything else goes straight in the drier.

Even when it's nice? I can't believe that there are people tumble drying bedding, towels, socks and so in in the middle of a heatwave! Things smell SO much fresher and nicer when they've been outside in the fresh air.

Even when it's nice? I can't believe that there are people tumble drying bedding, towels, socks and so in in the middle of a heatwave! Things smell SO much fresher and nicer when they've been outside in the fresh air.

I don't have the time and decent weather rarely coincides with having washing to get dry.

I feel a bit guilty about how much I use my drier but I live in an upstairs flat with three children under 5 so leaving them unsupervised to go down to the back garden to hang laundry isn't an option very often and we use cloth nappies so alongside all the normal laundry of a household there's the nappies to get dry too.

I have a Lakeland heated drier which is great but not fast enough and everything looks creased so I only use it for things I don't care about being creased like underwear, pjs, vest tops etc.

YANBU and your MIL is being passive aggressive.

Things smell SO much fresher and nicer when they've been outside in the fresh air.

Not everyone has access to outdoor space - we do now, but I spent three years living in a flat with no access to a garden or somewhere to hang my washing. I had to dry it inside and it often took 48 hours to dry - it just wasn't feasible when I needed it clean for work the next day.

As soon as I could get a tumble dryer, I did. I now live in the wettest county in the UK and it's a lifesaver. Blue skies and "good drying weather" in the morning don't mean it'll still be blue skies when I get in from work 11 hours later!

I couldn’t bear to do what so many on here do and have damp clothes, towels, bedding etc. festooning drying frames and radiators all over the house. I would hate the mess and humidity

I don't have a tumble drier (We moved and there was no room for it but I barely used it when I had one) but my house isn't at all like this!

I hang everything outside whenever I can, and we also have a lean to glass type thing (thanks old owners) with a little washing line in it and I stick my airer underneath it on days where it looks like it might rain. Its like drying your clothes in a greenhouse. I appreciate this is weird and rare! I can only thank the prev owners for their barmy but useful ideas!

when its freezing cold and pissing down I stick stuff on radiator airers, and its dry within a couple of hours. Its not humid at all, but I do leave the windows open a crack all year round anyway.

Tumble dryer begrudgingly gets used for towels and sheets in the winter months only and then only a couple of times a week, certainly not every day

Live in the South East so our summers are generally decent enough to hang washing out.

People who use their tumble dryers when the weather is fine and they have a garden should be strung up. The planet is choking FFS

Things smell SO much fresher and nicer when they've been outside in the fresh air
Not if you are surrounded by neighbours who are constantly either barbecuing or lighting their bloody fire pit thingy .

We have a tumble dryer in the uk because the weather is so rubbish. When the sun is shining I hang dry.

In Spain we don’t have a tumble dryer because it’s not necessary and everything is hung dry outside.

Your mil is a jealous idiot, ignore.

I'd prefer not to use one, but I work full-time and the weather is pretty unpredictable. Drying indoors takes forever when the heating is off and there's only so much indoor drying space.

Don't enter into an argument about it with her.

Just tell her that you have decided you want the drier and to use it and that she "needs to stop talking about it and telling you what you need to do".

Or "it's my house, my appliances" "You have the appliances you want, and I have mine", "I don't tell you which appliances you should or shouldn't have at home, do I?"
And so on...

I have 4 children and don’t have one. Got no space for one tbh.

Even when it's nice? I can't believe that there are people tumble drying bedding, towels, socks and so in in the middle of a heatwave! Things smell SO much fresher and nicer when they've been outside in the fresh air.
Yes even when it’s nice. I can’t be doing with hanging things out and having hard towels. I don’t like the smell of lime dried clothes anyway I like them warm and soft fro make dryer

Yes even when it’s nice. I can’t be doing with hanging things out and having hard towels. I don’t like the smell of lime dried clothes anyway I like them warm and soft fro make dryer

Warm and soft like a melting iceberg? ..

Some people always want you to 'improve' (to their standards, or society's), and they always do it with zero consideration for what your life looks like as a whole.

I am a pretty proactive person who takes minimal downtime. In the past two years I've lost 5st, written 2.5 books, organised my own DIY wedding, been travelling and done a fair bit of work on the garden, as well as working full time.

Anyone telling me that I could be doing domestic labour instead of achieving what I have in the meagre time I have free outside of that lot can go take a running jump.

I'd like to hang my washing outside more, but I live in Cumbria and it really does rain so often here. It takes ages to dry on an airer and makes the house feel damp.

I live in the west of Scotland where it rains 350 days a year (May be less but feels like it). I don’t use a dryer, I line dry or use an Airer with a dehumidifier. The polar bears are dying out but it’s ok because we can dry towels so they are soft 🙄

But it’s all relative isn’t it? Yes, I tumble dry everything as I like soft towels and laundry that I don’t have to iron. However, there’s just me in the house so my tumble dryer use amounts to two loads a week, occasionally three. For all I know you may be in a household of five or six people, or maybe with a baby/toddler who needs lots of nappies, so doing several loads of washing each day. Which may mean that your humidifier is running pretty much non-stop. So, if you were in this situation, your humidifier use would top my tumble dryer use. Who knows? It really isn’t as simple as saying ‘you use a tumble-dryer therefore you’re a polar bear killer’.

I don’t like the smell of lime dried clothes anyway

oh I loooooove it. My washing smells almost sweet its so nice. I am not fussed for a soft towel - we're all different!

We love our dryer. It's in use every day.

We don't have a washing line, nor do any of our neighbours.

There is no way I am pegging out washing, or draping clothes indoors. Open washing machine, straight into the dryer. Job done.

We have a holiday place in the US - in our community it's not allowed to hang out washing!

I don’t have a garden and I don’t have a line, in fact my flat is so small I can barely accommodate the tumble dryer. It’s currently residing in the wardrobe with my clothes and the boiler. The clotheshorse has to go in the only free floor space, which is in the kitchen/living room between the telly and the sofa.

Put a post it note on it saying:

Yes, I know you dont like it. Yes, i know you think it's a waste of money. Let's have a pleasant visit and agree to disagree. If you mention it, I'll tell you, i dont want to talk about it.

If she then starts to talk about it you say -

I dont want to talk about that.

If she mentions it again you say -

I told you I dont want to talk about it.

Interrupt her and say it ad nauseum.

She'll stop.