To insist my DH takes 3yo to football

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3yo loves playing football so signed him up to a lovely age appropriate little football club. He loves going every week. It's also something for him and dh away from the baby and great for developing his social skills and listening skills.

I left them to it this morning and went to sort out baby. DH texts to say he doesn't want to go, he wants to play in the sand, so they aren't going. I've said that's bonkers, he's 3, he'll love it when you get there and just take him.

Aibu?

Yanbu, your dh needs to just take him along.
I had this with dd when she was little with swimming lessons. Hated getting up and ready, loved the actual lessons and the friends she had there.

My son does rugby tots, every single Saturday morning he moans that he doesn’t want to go and turns into a drama queen, once there he loves it and doesn’t want it to end.

Make him go, it also shows he can’t always get his own way.

I think it's good to allow even 3 year olds some autonomy in decision making, we don't know enough of the conversation between the kid and the dad to know if it was really the dad not wanting to go and influenced the kid as is so easy, or if the kid was adamant.

Default assumption is that you trust the parent who was there.

YANBU I would be the same. We did little kickers with ds and it was always a faff to get there but he enjoyed it and it’s nice for them to be introduced to sport/ exercise from a young age imo but we generally like these types of things as a family. If they hated it when they were there then that would be different.

I was worried about setting a precedent. He does this with me for other classes but once there is having the best time and doesn't want to leave.

Tbf, we don't know the conversation, and I suspect DH cba to go.

I’d have no issue with him deciding not to go. At three, any clubs are the parents choice not the child’s.

How many other classes does he do?

YANBU, presumably the session is an hour max, so he'll be out of the house for 2 hours tops. That leaves at least 4 hours this afternoon to play in sand.

This is the only regular class. We might do a drop in on other classes once every few weeks.

Absolutely the club is the parents choice. But he really loves it and gets a lot of development from it. I think part of good parenting is to expose him to these situations to prep him for preschool and school

At 3, meh, personally I reckon to young for those sort of things. OK for something to do, but he wanted to play in the sand so had something to do.

Holy God!
3 year olds enjoy anything that involves rough and tumble, you don't need organised sports.
Do you and your DH actually txt each other in your own house?

@maras2
Yes we text in the same house, so what? We have a baby and I'm in with the baby, he's trying to keep the 3yo quiet.