In-laws are very controlling and unreasonable and are like this with all their children and their spouses. Their fixed views that their 'children' need to do whatever they say as they are indebted to their parents, has created many issues in their childrens marriages. DH acknowledges his parents are very controlling and unreasonable but states they are his family, he loves them and will always have a relationship with them.
They have been disrespectful to me many times and are constantly trying to turn my husband against me. This has understandably caused issues because my husband wasn't standing up for me because he feared them. This affected my mental health greatly and had me in a bad place. My husband has since grown a bit of a spine but is still not fully there. We're in a situation where I want hardly anything to do with them, and I have agreed to only see them at family functions so a handful of times a year. DH continues his relationship and sees them often. This initially annoyed me, but providing his relationship with them doesn't affect our marriage or me, I accept it.
He is struggling to accept me not having a relationship with them, and wants me to attend more things with him. He states he would like me to do it 'for him'. AIBU to say no to these things, because being around them affects my mental health? Is it unreasonable for someone to not want a relationship with their in-laws?
Note, we do not have children at the moment and I have made it clear that when we do, they will only see his family when I am present because his parents cannot be trusted as they have proved with their other grandchildren. DH has agreed to this.