Dinner party limbo

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I had plans to have a friend round for dinner tonight. She just texted saying she thinks she's coming down with a migraine and might not make it. I texted back sympathy and said I hoped she felt better soon and we could pick a new date when she's better.

She then replied saying 'I might feel better later so I will just text you this afternoon if I'm still coming.'

AIBU or is this a pain? If I don't know whether she's coming or not I still have to sort the house and buy in the food in case she does. That will be wasted if she then doesn't turn up. If I just wait to hear from her it will be a mad flap if she decides she does want to come anyway.

WIBU to text back and say it's better just to cancel and find a better date? How do I word that in a way that doesn't make it sound like I'm just cancelling to be passive aggressive?

She ended up definitively cancelling by lunchtime anyway, so it was fine! Thank you for all the advice, though, it was reassuring and helpful.

I'm surprised if it's tonight you've not bought the food yet

Really? My husband and I both work long, irregular hours so weekends are really the only time we have to shop or wait in for deliveries. Same with cleaning (house is generally tidy and clean but would have had to do the spare room in case they stayed etc). We tend to do all of our chores at the weekends.

As much as this is annoying, I'm surprised if it's tonight you've not bought the food yet, and tidying your house is never a waste?

If I’m hosting, I buy fresh ingredients on the day. We both work full time, so the weekend is our only time to go shopping, really.