Aibu to want a couple of nights away on my own?

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I don't even really know why! Just feel slightly like I need to take stock of things and get a bit of distance, nothing fundamentally wrong just the passage of time, family pressures, teen kids etc.

Also our holiday this year wasn't by the sea and I really missed it! Haven't seen the sea this year. Was thinking of taking myself off to Cornwall for a couple of days, where I used to go as a child which would be lovely.

DH almost certainly wouldn't have an issue with it, but may see it as unusual behaviour. Kids and friends would definitely see it as a bit odd and possible cause for worry.

Don't really know what I'm asking - how would I phrase it so it didn't seem like I wasn't having a mid life crisis or doing a Shirley valentine?? Is it selfish?

YANBU at all.

I don’t have kids and I adore my DP but I still need time to myself to recharge my batteries and think things through. My DP sometimes goes away for a weekend with his hobby and I usually enjoy having the house to myself but I think next time I’m going to take myself away somewhere for a solo mini break at the seaside.

YANBU - I love my alone time and if I have too much going on for a while I need to take a week or so to recharge my social/family batteries.

I'd probably just say that you're tired & really want to spend some time by the sea, on your own, reminiscing and recharging

YANBU I would love to do this.

You've inspired me to book myself a weekend away. A few months ago I had a day out by myself in a city and I loved not having to think about anyone else all day, so I think I'd love it.

I've been struggling with some big decisions at home and actually a weekend away might help with that.

I don’t think you need to phrase it any way. Tell your husband exactly what you’ve said here, make sure your kids know you’re coming back, don’t tell your friends anything.

Seems perfectly normal to me. I go away alone for the weekend several times a year- its the only way i get a break. I thoroughly enjoy it and really feel like "me". It's lovely not having to consider anyone else.

One of my friends went away for work recently and had entire evening to herself in a hotel and I was deeply jealous. I’d love the time to myself.

I go off on my own almost every year for a 3 day weekend. My DH gets it, my DC know I always come back and I absolutely do not care what friends and acquaintances think. Having a bit of time alone to do exactly what you want to do is hardly cause for anyone to worry. If anything you might find friends are inspired to take their own mini break.

Well - I almost could have written your post OP! I was brought up by the sea and miss it terribly as we live very much inland. I was meant to have gone to Pembrokeshire in May, but I am carer to my sick OH and he took a turn for the worse and I had to cancel it.

The last few days I have been looking up coach trips to the sea, trains, anything really to just see the sea this year!

We have a live-in carer now as OH so sick, but there has been a bit of turnover of carers as his problems are so great. Once the carer situation has settled a bit I will be off and away for a couple of days.

Ditch the guilt!

I do a "retreat" every year for a weekend. It sounds funny, but I really believe everyone, religious or not, deserves some time to look at beautiful scenery and have some quiet to think about their life and observe how they feel about things.

I need to do this! So much life stress at the mo.

YANBU I would absolutely love that

YANBU, I do this every year.

I was young when DH & I had our DC, and a few yrs ago I felt utterly drained with the monotony of work, DCs, school appts, home life & needed to breathe. Realised I hadn't actually had any time to just myself alone for years. Everything revolved around family, DH, work, home, and everyone else.
I frequently felt like I wanted to just run away, but I didn't at all- I just felt suffocated and wanted some breathing space to myself.
I started doing it in 2016. Once a year I take a long weekend away (friday-monday), just to myself. It is fucking bliss.

I read in peace, eat what I like without needing to consider where other people want to eat, I have a wander around in new surroundings, and go places without teenage DC telling me it's boring.

I come home feeling clear headed and just refreshed from having that time solely to myself. I don't feel guilty, or care what anyone would thinks of a married woman having time away from her family. I feel like I owe myself it, and it has a wonderful effect on my mood & mental health.

Go for it OP!

I go away for work 2 or 3 times a year and will tack an extra few 'me' days on each time. Dh is fine with this as I always come back recharged. It's not selfish, it's called looking after yourself, go for it!

I do this a couple of times a year, sometimes with a friend, sometimes alone - there’s no reason why not!

Would I like to do this? Yes. Would I feel able? No. I’d be quite upset if DH left me alone with the kids all weekend but we have twin toddlers with additional needs so it’s hard work. Maybe when they’re older. So for me it depends on your situation.

We went to a very posh hotel spa for DH’s 40th recently and I dream about staying there by myself for the night. Again, maybe one day!