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Could I be pregnant? Im freaking out!!!

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mamam2 · 30/08/2019 23:29

Me and my husband have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years now (long story as to why that is)

Anyway I had our second born 14 months ago. We saw each other briefly when our son was 4 months old.

I never had period since I gave birth. We are currently together and had sex last week. Few days later I saw normal spotting which lasted exactly only 1 day. At first I thought maybe my periods are back however Im now freaking out could it be Implantation bleeding?

If it was my period surely the bleeding would be longer than just a day?

I didn’t use any protection when we had sex. He said he will come out when he comes but we both got carried away and he came inside me. The following day I did took after morning pill. Is it still possible that I could still conceive?

Im really freaking out!!!

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WhoArtinHeaven · 31/08/2019 10:23

I got pregnant after taking the MAP (although went on to miscarry) so it's entirely possible.

WhoTellsYourStory · 31/08/2019 10:45

I’m going to get flamed for this but why are so many people still using the withdrawal method?! You can get pregnant from it even if he doesn’t come inside you. How am I a lesbian who knows more about how this works?!

SachaStark · 31/08/2019 11:37

Heaven knows, @WhoTellsYourStory, there seems to be this exact thread every single week on AIBU at the moment.

“I have had unprotected sex, could I be pregnant?”
“Well, obviously yes.”

It doesn’t say much for the intelligence of a bunch of grown women (and their adult male partners). We aren’t animals, if you can make a decision to have consensual sex, you can control yourself long enough to find some contraception or hold off until you do.

I don’t get it, I just couldn’t take a risk on something so massive as a baby. I reckon that subconsciously these posters must WANT to be pregnant, otherwise why would you risk it??

SachaStark · 31/08/2019 11:37

Well, I mean we aren’t animals in the sense that we are capable of logical thought.

ThatFlamingCandle · 31/08/2019 12:02

Agree @SachaStark and @WhoTellsYourStory

I got pregnant at 16 because of this🤦🏻‍♀️ so in no way am I blaming the OP (I fully get why you wouldn't use long-term contraception in your case) but you should know better after already having kids.
If
There's not much to do but get a test. Brace yourself for the worst, then decide what you want.

WhoTellsYourStory · 31/08/2019 12:47

@ThatFlamingCandle 16 year olds get a free pass - sex education is rubbish, there may be fear issues with googling/attending GP whilst in parental home, general decision-making skills not yet at adult-level etc etc. But an adult with children already, good lord.

Toastymash · 31/08/2019 13:04

I don’t get it, I just couldn’t take a risk on something so massive as a baby. I reckon that subconsciously these posters must WANT to be pregnant, otherwise why would you risk it??

I think you're right about this. My DH and I use the withdrawal method but we do so knowing full well that there is a chance it will result in a baby, and we're both ok with that. We like babies and we only have one right now, and know we want more in the future. If I fell pregnant we'd both be surprised but happy. Before we got married and knew we weren't ready for DC we were very thorough about contraception. I had a coil and we used condoms. I wouldn't have dared to just use the pullout method!

elvis86 · 31/08/2019 13:09

OK - it’s just that for someone who is working overseas in a well paid job and has a wife and a small baby, 10 months is a lot longer than I’d expect between visits home, even if they’re on the opposite side of the world.

Yeah that's a very strange arrangement and not one I'd be happy with.

I've genuinely had less time between visits to my best mate in the US.

How can it be good for your family for your husband to be absent for 3 years whilst the children are small?

Sizeofalentil · 31/08/2019 13:12

If your periods are not yet back and you took the map it's unlikely you are pregnant. Although possible.

NoSauce · 31/08/2019 13:17

You might be then again you might not. I have no idea why you think anyone on the internet would actually know. Wait a week or so then test (!!!!)

furrybadger · 31/08/2019 13:51

I hate these threads, strangers on the internet can’t tell you your pregnant, take a pregnancy test and you’ll find out 🙄

MeggyMeg · 31/08/2019 13:55

FGS. Not another 'Am I pregnant?' threads. No one here will be able to tell you. Take a test

Obviously.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 31/08/2019 14:15

Yes you are pregnant, a baby girl, 7lbs 5oz. She will be born 8th may 2020.
Lotto numbers tonight are 5, 15, 26, 37, 45, 46
We are all psychic here didn't you know!

MeggyMeg · 31/08/2019 17:12

SirJamesTalbotAndHisSpeculum · 31/08/2019 17:19

Do you know when you ovulated? (I'm guessing not.)

The MAP is not effective if you take it after you've ovulated.

So you could be pregnant but only taking a test in about a week will tell you.

I hope you're not - since you took the MAP you obviously don't want to be. Good luck.

Theendofmyrope · 31/08/2019 17:21

Yeah that's a very strange arrangement and not one I'd be happy with
How can it be good for your family for your husband to be absent for 3 years whilst the children are small?

What the fuck as that got to do with what the OP was asking...... fuck me people will look for any reason to put the boot in or have a dig.

Theendofmyrope · 31/08/2019 17:25

OP I think what you are asking is the likelihood of you being pregnant. Unfortunately you will get these type of cunty replies because it's AIBU and some people are incapable of just leaving a reasonable response. For all their whining about these types of threads they still feel the need to post rather than ignore
Get a test and do it next week

elvis86 · 31/08/2019 17:27

What the fuck as that got to do with what the OP was asking...... fuck me people will look for any reason to put the boot in or have a dig.

You're right of course - it had absolutely nothing to do with the OP asking strangers on the internet if she could be pregnant after her husband ejaculated whilst inside her. Yet she still shared. So I commented.

Theendofmyrope · 31/08/2019 17:31

@elvis68 The OP was asking about the likelihood of her being pregnant and you start posting twatty judgemental comments on her and her DH's living arrangements

vicky2007 · 31/08/2019 20:24

My god, some women can be so cruel! The OP was simply asking the likelihood of her being pregnant. Instead what she got was rude, judgemental, sarcastic comments. Some even accusing her of being stupid and butting in her living arrangement which got nothing to do of what the OP was asking. Serious ladies? Not nice.

Some of you must be really sadistic and miserable as a simple thread from someone like this you find an opportunity to attack someone for nothing! No wonder bullying is on the rise if this is how us adult treat each other.

And for those who whines how much they hate these type of threads, you know you can always just ignore?

NoSauce · 31/08/2019 20:26

Pipe down Vicky. Where’s your advice then?

Roozy123 · 31/08/2019 20:32

@NoSauce

You might be then again you might not. I have no idea why you think anyone on the internet would actually know. Wait a week or so then test (!!!!)

THIS!!!!!!

vicky2007 · 31/08/2019 20:33

lol. If you must know have already sent her a private message. Thank you for asking thou 👍🏼

NoSauce · 31/08/2019 20:38

lol. If you must know have already sent her a private message. Thank you for asking thou

I’m intrigued. Do you know if the OP is pregnant then?!!!!!

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 31/08/2019 20:46

I really wish people would stop calling withdrawal a “method”. It’s not. It’s withdrawal roulette! Take your chances and see what happens. In no way does the withdrawal “method” constitute any form of contraception. It’s unprotected sex.

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