To find this behaviour at work just embarrassing ?

[RoryGlory]

Colleagues shouting at each other because of what was said behind one of theirs backs.

Seriously raised voices and everything

It's not great, but it's not massively unusual.

You get people together day in, day out. Occassionally people will act in a way they shouldnt.

I have seen this sort of thing in most places I have worked, even if it's just occasionally.

One place in particular (call centre) people used to end up in a physical fight at least once a month. I started feeling like a bouncer.

I dont really understand why you would be embarrassed. Were you one of the shooters?

Never seen it happen. What type of environment/ workplace?

YANBU. Where I work, that sort of behaviour would earn them a 'documented discussion' at the very least.

I saw this occasionally when I used to work in private sector but never since working for the public sector.

My DH works in a very male dominated industry and he's seen proper fist fights.

It's awful, isn't it? So unprofessional. Should be very career limiting.

Its so unprofessional!

I've seen Co workers scream at clients before...that's horrendous!

It's not great, but it's not massively unusual.
Tis in my world
Been working over 35 years, six different organisations, many different locations. Rarely come across anything like this.
I did have a manager in the early 80s who was very volatile and occasionally shouted at people but he was considered unusual and people raised their eyebrows behind his back.
Also once a woman working nearby had a furious, high decibel rant about something a colleague had supposedly said about her and that was so embarrassing nobody could look at each other while it was going on.

So YANBU. Very poor behaviour at work and I would be uncomfortable around it.

I have worked in several call centres for big established companies. Not little dodgy ones. Happened between staff of all levels on occasion.

When I was having dd 15 years ago, 2 MW had a shouting match on the corridor.

I worked in Asdas head office. Happened there. Last year, my friend worked at jet2 and they had to get the police to attend.

Maybe it's just Leeds where people get a but ragey.

Its not happened in my current office, but I have only been there a few days. Plenty of time yet

Very unprofessional.

People are supposed to take something like that into a room to avoid
disturbing others.

As above I’m astonished at what passes for acceptable behaviour in the public sector. So many people have no thermostats. The door would’ve been literally battering people’s arses in the private sector.

It’s not ideal but actually might be more healthy in the long run rather than snidely office politics and whisperings. In fact it sounds like snidely behaviour kicked it off in the first place. As long as it’s not in front of the public, customers or clients etc better to get it out. Sounds entertaining

If that was happening in a workplace where I was the manager there would be some serious intervention. That kind of thing leads to harassment issues and complaints. I can also lead to stress leave and even mental health problems. Not to mention the impact on productivity.

Did you video the entertainment but seriously awful to witness. Please dont say you are working in healthcare

It is cringeworthy but I have seen it happen. I used to work in a team in which we’d all worked together for a good few years and in which there were some fairly strong personalities, and at one point we were temporarily moved from a huge open plan office to one tiny room just for our team. Also we had a somewhat stressful, reactive, unpredictable job to do. Forty hours a week in a small room with a load of people who had been biting their tongues with each other for five years proved quite... interesting.

The people involved were taken outside by their manager and told it was on no account to happen again, but the worst thing was that it was the afternoon of the team Christmas do so that was quite an awkward evening

I once had the misfortune to work in a CAMHS office where colleagues were vile to each other. Quite often I would have to find an excuse to terminate sometimes distressing telephone calls with parents at their wits end because yet another embarrasing slanging match was brewing behind me. Hysterical shouting at others over ill perceived slights seemed to be the norm.

I still wonder how they can even hope to support young people with their mental health when they are so dismissive of the mental wellbeing of colleagues.

Wow, there are a lot of judgey people on here who must live perfectly calm and stress-free lives.

I’ve had two weeks since a colleague got back from holiday. He’s under pressure and he’s spent those two weeks hounding me non-stop, he’s the type who would stab his own granny to get what he wants, he’s made my life a misery, to the point I’m considering resigning just to get away from him. I know he’s putting me under so much pressure that I’ll make a mistake. I spent last weekend worrying about it and it’ll ruin this weekend as well.

A couple of hours ago I snapped and said out loud ”for fucks sake xxxxx”.
He wasn’t in the room but someone else heard me.

Now it seems I am unprofessional too. . Although I’ve never seen anything get physical and I would resign rather than let it get that far.

YANBU as a supervisor, I've just had to raise the issue of one employee (male) declaring that 'being female is a disability' to a (new female) employee. He (male employee) saw it as 'banter that they said to each other'. I suggested that it's probably best to err on the side of caution instead of potentially making a good new member of staff feel unwelcome. I got the reply of 'yes but sometimes women think that having periods, etc puts them at a disadvantage, almost like a disability, so she could have said that'.