Hi all, I've name changed for this because it could be outing.
Basically, my parents and siblings live in a very small house (my childhood home) it is very poorly kept and since I moved out 5 years ago there is no space for me anymore.
I visit a few times a year and stay in the house (airbed it sofa which is fine in itself). I visit high days and holidays that kind of thing and I've been shortening my visits every time due to the way the house is and the attitude of my family towards it and me.
My AIBU here is could I get away with not staying with them anymore/visiting until things are sorted?
They're adults and I'm not trying to give them an ultimatum but I am uncomfortable being there and it triggers so much anxiety and brings up difficult things from being younger. Every time I go I have frank conversations about things at home and up until recently I did my best to help out but there isn't any point if they wont maintain it or make helpful changes. They just get upset at me then guilt me for saying something. Then won't stop talking to me about things when I'm not there so I don't understand how they want me to be involved.
I'd miss them and it would limit me being able to see family and friends who live near them because I can't really afford to stay elsewhere.
I'm not even sure if I could go through with not seeing them but after this last time a few weeks ago I'm at the end with it and just want to see what opinions others have in this.
Please be gentle