My sister and I grew up in a really close family. She was slightly closer to our dad and me more our mum but as a family we’ve always pulled together and got on well. I married and had kids before her which made her resentful and bitter, our relationship has never recovered but that’s a whole new thread. She remained close to our parents.
Over the last two years she’s met someone, married and had a child with him. Since then she’s slowly cut off my entire family. My parents look after her child twice a week because it’s the only way they get to see him. We’re no longer allowed to celebrate birthdays together and even when our parents have suffered life changing illnesses she’s only ever visited them once (they’ve both been in hospital for weeks at a time). She plays the victim and post BS about not being “part of the family”. She chooses it but then she gets all this sympathy because she pretends to be hard done by. She told my parents she’s a SMITH now, not a MICHAELS and she must behave accordingly. WTF?!?!? I’ve been married over ten years and am still as close as ever to my parents, as are my children. Since when is it a THING to cut off your family because you’re married? AIBU to expect her to have a relationship with us as well as her new family????