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To feel a bit hurt

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howdyalikemenow · 28/08/2019 23:29

That after 5 days away with my kids, to visit family, my dp (we don't live together) has organised an overnight visit with a friend the night I get back.

It's his time to spend how he chooses but for context, we see each other every day (live 10 mins apart) and we haven't not seen each other for this long in over a year. He is also always the one who wants to see me, even if it's late or just for a cuppa etc so we can connect. I don't doubt his affection, but bearing in mind he'd said how much he was going to miss me, I was a bit taken aback that he's booked something on the Friday I'm back. It's an old work mate and someone he's in touch with regularly. He has asked if I'm free on the Saturday. As it happens I'm not. It's the kids' last weekend before school so we're having dinner with friends (he's welcome if he wants to attend but absolutely fine if he doesn't).

I really was just looking forward to seeing him and feel really sad that I'm not, but accept that I am very probably being unreasonable.

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BackforGood · 28/08/2019 23:37

You know YABU really.
You've been away for 5 days, and you have arranged something for the Saturday night.
It is only the one night he hasn't been available.

All that said, a week is hardly desperately long to go without seeing someone.

AnneLovesGilbert · 28/08/2019 23:39

YANBU to feel sad about it if you’ve missed him bit YWBVU to try and make him feel bad about it. You’ve got stuff on which takes you away from him, he’s allowed to make plans too.

Branleuse · 28/08/2019 23:42

A tiny bit, but its only 5 days

howdyalikemenow · 28/08/2019 23:52

Yeah. You're right. It is only 5 days. I guess I'm just a bit disappointed. But that's my shit to deal with. Thanks for the responses. It's helpful to see things from a neutral perspective.

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