To be fuming!??

[Childcar12]

Every time dh makes something, cooks dinner, had the kids all day he uses EVERY SINGLE, cup, plate, saucer, bowl, pot, pan, spoon!! You name it, he has used it!! But he then just leaves them piled up by the sink when I come home from wherever I have been I am met with a s*heap to clean in the kitchen!! It drives me insane!!he knows I like to keep the kitchen clean, whenever I have the DC for the day I manage to feed them, bake etc but we CLEAN IT UP!! Aibu to be really irritated that I have to finish my day cleaning a mess I had no part in!!

Aibu to be really irritated that I have to finish my day cleaning a mess I had no part in!!

Well, you don't.
Simply comment along the lines of "I'll bath the kids whilst you do the washing up and get the kitchen tidy", and leave him to it.

Totally agree with Backforgood

Why are you doing his dishes? I presume this isn’t just a “you cook, I’ll wash up” arrangement? If he is cooking just for him or him and kids and you’re not around, you should be leaving it all to him. He clearly has no respect for you.

I agree, if you continue to clean up after them they have no incentive to do it themselves.

That said, how evenly are your work hours/home chores/etc split? Based on this, is it unreasonable to expect that you do it?

Don’t do it. His mess, he sorts it. He might think twice if he has to face some consequences.

He leaves them because he’s lazy and he knows you will clean up after him.

Another vote for don't do it

My OH used to do this. When I came in from work EVERY DAY - until the day I walked in, saw it, and said “I’m not coming back until this kitchen is clean.” Packed a small bag, and walked out.
I turned my phone off for an hour to avoid the inevitable calls telling me I was being unreasonable etc. (And to give myself time to calm down).
Now I come home to normal untidiness, not piss taking.