Why do people say things!

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I don’t think I’m being unreasonable but I’ve noticed people say this kind of thing, on social media and such.

When people for example, have been in an accident and are told by the doctors they can no longer walk, and then thankfully, they recover.

They then on to say: Screw you Doctor I can walk, or you were all against me but I’ve proved everyone wrong, anything along those lines.

It really annoys me because the doctor is only trying to be honest and show them the most likely medical scenario. I can bet they said you are very likely to not walk again/see again etc, to not get there hopes up as it as more likely to go the other way,

Obviously it is amazing they are cured, but just because the doctor says you won’t, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you to!

So AIBU To not understand why people would think this way about people who were trying to help them?

TrainspottingWelsh you've put into words much more effectively than me. That's the circumstances I was thinking of, although I couldn't quite get the words right. Something that is technically physically possible but is so gruelling that realistically most people can't quite get there.

Had one on FB the other day (ex colleague) doing a "screw you" comment.
It was her 20th wedding anniversary and the post read something like "proved all you *&@!ers wrong who said we would never make it"

How about a good old fashioned "happy anniversary to my husband"?

It just puts a hugely negative spin on a nice thing.

I think if you take the cancer example, mental strength might have a bearing on forcing yourself to eat a small amount when the chemotherapy makes you nauseous. But essentially the only thing that will have any bearing on the cancer is whether the medical treatment works or not.

Mental illness is obviously more blurred to begin with, and I’m certainly not suggesting it’s controlled by mental strength. I think there’s certain areas it might have a role. Eg the decision to get help for depression, versus doing nothing and becoming emotionally dependent on your child for support. But will power won’t change the actual illness.

And sometimes what appears to be mental strength is dictated by circumstances. Eg a single parent with severe pnd facing the choice of forcing themselves to function, or having their baby neglected/ removed is going to have a much higher breaking point than someone with support not facing those circumstances. It’s more about do or die than will power. And either way the pnd is the same illness

Not as much as people who thank God for any small miracle or cure in their life rather than the surgeons who did it.

Don’t they ever consider that if God was so fantastic in the first place he probably wouldn’t have given them cancer, just to come back a few years later to give them the all-clear?

@ShirleyPhallus

You make a good point there.
I have a touch of religion myself but I think it needs to go along with the concept of free will and self determination.

Otherwise we're all just hanging around waiting for god to help us or others and not doing anything to help.
There'd certainly be no point in surgeons (for example), it seems to me, if a big finger just came out of the sky, pointed at one person saying "You'll live" and at another saying "You'll die".

(Just realised I know a joke in bad taste about that sort of concept too.
I obviously mix in bad company )

Had one on FB the other day (ex colleague) doing a "screw you" comment. It was her 20th wedding anniversary and the post read something like "proved all you &@!ers wrong who said we would never make it"*

Was awake in the middle of the night and this made me LOL

I know what you mean! It's so aggressive and negative. Also, when I read stuff like that I think to myself that they don't mention anything about being happy as such just that they are still together. Sounds like the kind of person who would grimly hang onto a miserable relationship, cutting off her nose to spite her face, just to prove others "wrong". What a way to live

proved all you &@!ers wrong who said we would never make it*

Was awake in the middle of the night and this made me LOL

Now that's made me remember a joke that I can repeat on MN. Bob Monkhouse saying: "When I was young, I told people I wanted to be a comedian. And they laughed!
Well, they're not laughing now!".

Love it!