Hi everyone. I need to know if I'm bu with my DM and dB.
DB is a young adult and has always been very attached to DM. And she is is the same with him. The main issue is I feel she is really starting to stunt his emotional/ mental well-being etc. And she just won't listen to me or just gets angry.
Main examples are dB has never had a job never been encouraged to have one either. Lives with my mum and goes to collage but hates the course and is only doing it as it's his source of income.
He can drive and got a new car bought for him but refuses to drive it. As he thinks there is something wrong with it. ( There isn't it has been checked numerous times). So because of this my DM drives him to collage and picks him up after she's been working all day. This journey adds another 30/40 mins onto her commute in the morning.
He doesn't do any house work, clean his room, washing or anything . Basically all he does is spend time in his room playing the Xbox. DM makes all his food. Buys all his clothes and pays for the car petrol etc.
I feel like he still thinks he's like a 12 year old or younger. He slept in the same bed as DM until he was nearer 17.
So I had enough and said to my mum I am really worried about him as it's not normal for someone of that age to have no social life and spend all his time in his room. Also she isn't doing him any favours by doing everything for him as he's never going to learn to be independent.
She has shouted at me and told me that he has had a hard life and she would of done it for me. But no she never would of and I wouldn't of expected it.
So what would you do? Go minimum contact I'm fed up of her moaning about him to me and how she doesn't have the money but never does anything about it.
Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading.