To think that you can still reply if you're ill?

[Wagamamastratford]

My boyfriend is ill, and I texted him yesterday. Nothing massively important that couldn’t wait to be answered until next time I see him face to face, but AIBU to think that if you can come on WhatsApp 2-3 times every hour you can reply to my message? I get that he’s ill, but why is he coming on so often if he’s that ill and not able to talk?

Are you going by 'last seen?'

My watsapp shows 'online' when I'm using nowtv to watch stuff.

Yanbu to want him to call/text you back but you've done it a few times now and he's obviously not in the mood. I would text back myself if i felt ok to but only if you were the kind of person to be satisfied by just a text. I don't text back dmum until i feel 100% for a conversation, much as i love her as she takes it as open invite to call or text loads more while all i want to do is stream tv and fall asleep halfway through

I have 'last seen' off as i some people i know get humpy if not replied to right away and count the minutes it takes! It's not petty, no idea why it would be, it's not wanting to get grief from unreasonable demands. If im following a receipe online and watsapp pings up, i might glance at it to check it's not immediately needing response, like an invitation or dh late for dinner, but i wont respond to normal chat until I'm finished cooking and clearing up, ready to relax.

You called him a few times before work? It’d be annoying to be on the receiving end of that, even if he wasn’t ill.

I would be pissed off with this too. If he is ill he probably isn’t sleeping well and the morning sleep after a restless night is the best.

Best to leave him to it now. He will see all the missed calls and reply when ready.

No message is a message.
No response is a response.
He doesn't want to communicate with you, by message or speaking.
Go do your own thing and leave him be.
I'd be wondering what I was getting out of this relationship.

Its not like the text was from Dave who sits opposite him in the office or from the house four doors down wanting to borrow some tools. Its from someone you are supposed to be in a relationship with. Given he is not so ill he needs to be in hospital then a short reply is perfectly reasonable to expect

If I could change anything in my past, it would be that I hadn't wasted hours of my time wondering why some guy hadn't called/texted and analysing his behaviour and getting upset about it.

Think about all the great things you could be doing instead. Learning a language. Playing an instrument. Meeting a friend.

It's beside the point, but engaging in any of those activities will also make you a more interesting and attractive person.

It's literally my one regret. Become the sort of person who does a lot of interesting activities instead of the sort of person who stares at their phone waiting for a text.