Toddler always filthy after nursery

[meditereb]

My ds is 22 months old he always comes home filthy from bursery ! Snot and and food all over his face ! Aibu to expect them to at leaat wipe their face a bit ?? Is this considered normal ??

YANBU! It's basic care. At 22 months he's still a baby, I wouldn't expect a child of that age to be able to properly wipe his own nose and clean his face.

FFS@ he should be doing it himself.

22 months, he's one. So just say he's one.

He is more than capa le at that age of either wiping it himself or asking.

Stop banying him.

In our nursery they stopped after an Ofsted inspection recommended they encourage kids more in self care and stop doing so much for them

dandelion whaaat? People tend to say ‘22 months’ because there is a huge difference between a 13 month old and a 23 month old, so ‘one’ doesn’t really cut it when you’re talking about development.
Also loads of 23 month olds I know aren’t capable of asking. Even if they are capable, loads probably wouldn’t care and be too engrossed in an activity, to stop and ask for a nose wipe...

I might expect nursery to suggest child has a go at cleaning up, but expect the nursery nurse to finish the job.

Guess I shoukd be very worried, my eldest is 3 at the end of the year and he doesn't wipe his own fave or nose....better get a check up!! Some people on here are very funny!

OP my kid never has snot or food on his face because nursery provides basic care. I would be asking nicely that they do it and see if it makes a difference. I wouldn't switch if he enjoys it and seems to be learning, if he isn't learning either then you have an issue.

I used to work in a nursery and yanbu. Faces were always cleaned throughout the day.

Mine would come home with paint and mud on them, which to me is a good sign.
But always a clean face and hands.
Mind you mine never went to a day nursery, just a half day one.

I wouldn't expect a 2 year old to clean his/her own face. Bonkers

I’m a childminder. I would be mortified to send a child home with snot or food all over their face. After lunch they are given a flannel and are expected to try to clean themselves up a bit, but this is more for show with a 22 month old, when they’ve had a play with the flannel, I come in and finish the job, making sure they are tidy (which is what I imagine ofsted wanted to see at a nursery mentioned by a pp).
They should be keeping noses wiped as a hygiene precaution to stop the snot going everywhere and to stop their faces becoming sore. It’s a basic thing and anyone working in a baby room should be wiping noses as a basic level of care. If they haven’t got time to do this, you should be concerned about staffing levels.

Paint/messy play/craft/garden dirt on clothes is different and you need to dress them appropriately and hope your washing powder is up to the job, but hands and faces should be generally clean.

Once my sons nursery went my son home without wiping his face. When I mentioned it the next day the manager was mortified and couldn't stop apologising.

Nurseries should definitely be promoting self care, but they are also very young. They should definitely be cleaning his face (even if he has tried to do it himself beforehand). You're right to be concerned. If they're being lazy over this, what else are they being lazy with.

Mucky clothes from activities (painting,etc) is good cos they're learning and having fun. Caked snot is uncomfortable and neglectful

The nursery workers should be giving semi regular, quick wipes on the face to maintain cleanliness. People saying 'oh he should do it himself' are being very exclusive to presumably their own child. Congrats, you have a baby that will wipe their own face, many babies don't. My daughter just turned 1 and she sometimes tries to wipe her own face with a baby wipe for mimic purposes. She doesn't get all the food/muck off, and I highly doubt she'll do that anytime soon. Let children be children stop comparing! However yes the people who work in this nursery should be every 20 mins giving babies a quick clean on the face and hands for cleanliness. Only takes 5 seconds to do!

I'd be a bit concerned at a 2 year old not trying to wipe their own face if asked. Clearly not fully, but if they asked the child to and at least an attempt wasn't made, I'd be wondering why

I’m afraid I agree with this. It happened to a friend of mine. Eventually, after many years of worry, it turned out their child wasn’t human at all but a cyborg who didn’t understand the need for cleaning faces. Be careful

@littletinybubbles 😂😂😂

Complete basic care to keep a child's face clean and noses wiped.
Not least because if a nose is allowed to be runny, a child might rub it and put mucus into their eye which can cause them to develop an eye infection.
Extremely basic child care.
Also for the child's comfort, having a funny nose is not nice.
A child with a dirty face and a runny nose screams a lack of care to me.
The creche are being sloppy and it needs to be brought up with them.

@littletinybubbles 😂😂😂 best thing I have read ... my 9 month old doesn’t wipe his face ... and doesn’t like me doing it ... i fear he is one 😂😂😂

I specifically sent my dc to nursery in nursery clothes so it didn't matter what the hell they did. I encouraged them to roll in the leaves & get muddy knowing it'd be totally fine with me. I was astounded at the number of kids, especially girls, going in wearing Monsoon Kids & then coming out with felt pen on it or glue.. But I can't say I ever saw a particularly filthy face.

A 22 month old is deffo still a baby and certainly needs help to be clean. When you pick him up in this state just say loudly oh dear did nobody have time to help you wipe your face today -how horrid for you OR take darling child back into building and make a thing of cleaning face etc before you leave. Staff will soon get the message

Look around for a better nursery. Giving babies face a wipe is the least they can do.

@Herkybaby

OP, do what she said👍

My 2.5 year old is always clean and has clean hands after preschool. They always tell me he's been playing in the mud kitchen and looking for bugs too so I'm 100% certain he's usually covered in muck before I collect him. Not hard to wipe and wash them before collection. I used to work in a nursery and we always made sure the children were clean and tidy before they went home. We also encouraged them to wipe their own faces after meals but they still needed help!
It's basic care, bring it up with them.