To be uncomfortable with these videos?

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Ive NCd as it’s a sensitive subject and I don’t wish to be outed IRL in case details are revealing.

SIL often uploads videos on the family WhatsApp of her 2 DDs, aged 3 and 5, in the bath.

DH is close to his nieces and doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with the videos being on the family chat.

But AIBU to be uncomfortable on their behalf? I know they’re still only really young but I’m not sure I would like videos of me naked - even as a young child - being seen by the entire family. Children grow up and become adults. When do they have the right to say they don’t want to be seen naked?

DH thinks I’m overreacting and doesn’t want me to say anything to SIL. Is he right?

If they are only been sent to trusted family members then yeah you are being unreasonable. I'm sure when the kids get older the videos will stop.

If they are comfortable naked (paddling pools etc) around the family seeing the photos I don’t see why not? We post pics of our kids naked on family chat all the time. My 3 year old nephew rarely has clothes on around us anyway.
As PP says, as they get older it will stop & I would hope once the children stop being comfortable naked around people it would too.

I think you’re being unreasonable; she’s not putting them on Facebook and the point of the videos aren’t that they’re naked, it’s that they’re having fun.

Yabu

It’s just close family so I think it’s fine

YANBU. I don't send any DC (and they are young, too!) naked pictures on any platforms for this reason. But everyone thinks I'm OTT for it...I don't care though!

Ok, so far unanimous then.

I’m actually glad of that. I personally would have hated my parents to have shared this sort of video with my family and there’s no way I’d have ever done it with my own children. But I accept that people have different ways and happy to be told IABU.

I think YABU. If she were putting them on social media it would be different but it's just family!

If it's just the family WhatsApp then it's fine. And it's not your place to 'say something' to your SIL because they're not your kids.

I've turned up to babysit kids that age and found them running around the house starkers after their evening bath, and these are kids I'm not even related to. And my nieces and nephews used to play in their paddling pool at family barbecues with nothing on, too. I don't think kids that age really care about that sort of thing and these are only WhatsApp videos; they're not going to be beaming them on to the side of the Houses of Parliament on their 21st birthdays.