Drinking whilst babysitting

[Jess389]

Recently my Mother babysat for my 2DC. She used to do it for one night every 6-8 weeks (we don't have any other support with the kids so she is our only port of call).
On this particular night she called me at around 8pm and was clearly drunk. She had a bit of an issue with alcohol when I was younger so I went to collect the children and she became aggressive towards me. I have not seen or spoken to her since.

Members of my close family are now asking to look after my children so they can take them to see her. AIBU to say that if she wants to see them she has to speak to me first and prove she is getting help?

Yes - she does need to talk to you about this. Not only about being drunk when looking after your children but also about becoming aggressive towards you when you went to pick them up.

It's always difficult with alcohol problems. I imagine she is feeling very guilty and doesn't know what to say to you. But I do think it's on her to make the first move and discuss things with you - and apologise.

Whether or not she is getting help you need to talk to one another about this before she sees the children.

Other relatives should back off until you're happy with the situation.

I wouldn't like it if someone babysitting for my kids got drunk so i'm not surprised you went to collect them.

If your mum wants to see the kids tell her to come round to your house and she can see them there. No need to involve third parties.

She was totally in the wrong !!

Sorry you don't have anyone else to help childcare is difficult at the best of times.

She shouldn't be drinking around them, especially it's a short time she has them ! regarding the other family members make it clear why you collected them etc and if you don't want them around her that's your right she's proven to be irresponsible
She was drunk & aggressive, your children are your world you did the right thing,stay strong.