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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

I know it’s hot but having a party in your garden tonight is a dick move.

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Shortysoso · 26/08/2019 22:20

We have work tomorrow even if they don’t.

I know it’s hot but it’s not ok to have a party on a work night when you are surrounded by neighbours - north london - is it!. Or am I being grumpy.

I know it’s still early but we’ve been here before and they’ll be out there for hours getting drunker and drunker and louder and louder.

It’s too hot to shut windows so it sounds like they’re in our garden.

We’ve had a long drive and I’d really like to go to sleep.

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Devonishome1 · 26/08/2019 22:48

I agree with you I hate noise when I’m trying to get to sleep...it gives me the rage! Some people are just so inconsiderate. I hope it goes quiet soon.

YoTheGinPussyOfStMawesOnThigh · 26/08/2019 22:49

Three doors up from me have been on the cannabis all afternoon, the smell knocked me back as I walked into the garden. The fumes were such that I expect to sleep very well tonight.

Sympathies OP, doesn’t your garden need hosing though. It’s a known fact it is more beneficial done after dark with all the spiders brandishing their willies and helping you.

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Shortysoso · 26/08/2019 22:51

I’ll have to try headphones and radio4 I suppose- it was pretty dull on our drive today so fingers crossed it hasn’t improved.

I wish the rest of mumsnet a peaceful night.

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queenqueenqueen · 26/08/2019 22:53

Utter twats. Sorry OP x

Aderyn19 · 26/08/2019 22:54

Unless you live in a field miles from anyone, I think parties in the garden are selfish, full stop.

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Shortysoso · 26/08/2019 22:54

The evil hose thought did cross my mind Ginpussy (if I can call you that) but they’re next door but one and I don’t think the water would reach them.
Plus they’re drunk enough to not mind a bit of damp.

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SoMuchToBits · 26/08/2019 22:54

Not everyone works just weekdays. I have just worked two 12 and a half hour shifts (Sunday and Monday) indoors in ridiculous heat (31 degrees on our ward) rushing up and down all day. Fortunately I'm too tired to party this evening, so my neighbours are lucky! But really, I often have to put up with noise from other people on Friday/Saturday nights because "It's the weekend". But not necessarily for me.

FiddlesticksAkimbo · 26/08/2019 22:55

Stick your head out of the (ideally upstairs) window and ask them politely to keep the nose down because you're trying to sleep. This reminds them how close they are to other people, and might encourage other neighbours who are silently fuming to do the same.

RosesAndRaindrops · 26/08/2019 23:07

If it's a one off (it is Bank Holiday Monday after all) I'd let it slide.
Probably grumble a bit and stick earplugs in though
Different story if it was a regular occurrence though.

Katzia · 26/08/2019 23:09

Not everyone works Monday to Friday. Your weekend when you make noise, OP, is the middle of someone else's working shift. Do you consider that? Hubby just spent the past 6 weeks working all kinds of shifts 7 days a week non stop, so when he did finally get a day off, of course we had an evening in the garden enjoying ourselves. It happened to be a Tuesday night! It was his free time. He had spent the past six weeks trying to sleep at all times with constant daytime noise, weekend parties, screaming kids etc. If anyone had dared tell him he couldn't relax on that Tuesday, they'd have got a right earful.

Pleaser256 · 26/08/2019 23:10

If you have a radio to hand Op, tune it into something with no station and the white noise should cancel out their racket (that’s if you can sleep to white noise)

SarfE4sticated · 26/08/2019 23:12

So, in your position, I shove in the earplugs and try to ignore it, or move to the front of the house and sleep on the sofa. It's really crap, but loads of people don't actually twig that there are people living behind the walls that they see from their back gardens. One of our neighbours hires a sound system sometimes, it's actually like trying to sleep in a nightclub.
Good luck!

elasticfantastic · 26/08/2019 23:16

As other PP, meh if they don't do it every week then yes it's annoying but get over it. I work in emergency services and have worked a crazy weekend... my restdays are tomorrow Wednesday and Thursday.. I don't whinge when people make noise at weekends though when I'm trying to sleep.
You clearly live in a suburban area so on the rare occasions of nice weather you're gonna have to just get over it.
And for the record I bloody hate hot weather which has made working the last few days even worse!

AJ1425 · 26/08/2019 23:18

I've worked every weekend and bank holiday since I was 18, except two maternity leaves. Been kept awake many times by loud people of a weekend. Yabu. Selfish twats operate 7 days a week, it just seems when they work 9 to 5 they think they are exempt.

justasking111 · 26/08/2019 23:22

My friend used to live in London the smell of bbq food made her heave that and fireworks going off drove her mad.

ThirdAidKit · 26/08/2019 23:22

This isn’t about time of week, it’s about consideration.

My neighbours sat out last night until about midnight (I was awake anyway), four or five of them, drinking, chatting.

Difference is they were using their normal indoor voices, not shrieking their heads off.

They are nice people and while I’d rather silence if a choice I’m happy they were enjoying their garden while being considerate.

glueandstick · 26/08/2019 23:23

Be grateful your dickwad neighbours haven’t installed a massive generator in their garden. It’s like being in a lorry park. I could actually kill them right now.

bellainthemiddle · 26/08/2019 23:24

Sympathies, OP, it would irritate me too on a work night! Like a PP said, they've had 3 days to do it.

West London here and carnival chaos is still going on outside the front door...

CokeZeroHero · 26/08/2019 23:24

@Katzia there's a big difference between 'relaxing in your garden' and being a bloody nuisance to your neighbours. Why on earth would anyone say anything to a man relaxing? Or by that word, do you mean drinking and making a racket?

stickerqueen · 26/08/2019 23:29

I feel your pain. Our neighbours are making a racket they are well and truly drunk been out drinking all day. It happens regularly round by me it drives me crazy.

Katzia · 26/08/2019 23:33

CokeZeroHero, no, I don't mean making a racket. I mean having dinner (weather permitting), a drink, normal conversation and low music. No music after 11pm. What most reasonable people do on a weekend, but which hubby does as and when he gets a free day.

zzzzzzzz12345 · 26/08/2019 23:35

I’d do the shouting out the window thing - people can be so selfish. We are rural and everyone wraps things up outside by 10 usually whatever the day. Any late parties are forewarned and always on a weekend night (sympathies to the shift workers here). They need to know how this inconveniences others.
If they carry on despite warning can I suggest you go round to chat things through at about 7am? Keep pressing the doorbell/bang loudly/shout through the letterbox til they answer as it’s important to strike while the iron is hot.

Davespecifico · 26/08/2019 23:47

I would leave it if it wasn’t the night before a work day. I would go round and tell them to turn it down as you have to be up for work.

RubbingHimSourly · 26/08/2019 23:55

We had this recently.........dp nipped it in the bud at 2am with a swift oi, you're taking the piss now. And a promise to bang them up at 6 am when he got up for work.

I don't mind people having fun but going too far past midnight and not even trying to quieten things down is taking the piss

mumwon · 27/08/2019 00:15

start watering the garden? Slight accident with hose pipe or sprinkler?

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