AIBU to ask what you would do in this situation?

[Vanderpumpaddict]

Me and my boyfriend had a minor argument on Wednesday last week, he called me names and I just haven’t spoken to him since. He sent me a random picture on WhatsApp on Saturday which I ignored, I don’t know if that’s his way of breaking the ice? I really miss him and sitting here thinking if I should text him first, he hasn’t apologised or anything for speaking to me that way which annoys me.

Does this happen frequently?

If it does, what usually happens when you both need to break the deadlock?

Personally could put up with a relationship where name calling was part of arguing.
Words stick even after youv said sorry

Personally I would ask him over tell him I will no longer tolerate name calling both apologise but if it happens again that's it

Does this happen frequently?

No it doesn't. I just feel like if he missed me as much as I miss him he'd text, a part of me also thinks it's childish

Cant say without knowing the argument and what he called you

If you were being really nasty to him and he said to stop being a bitch then maybe fair enough, you should both apologise

If it was a silly argument about what to watch on TV or who's turn it is to put the bins out and he called you a cunt, then I wouldn't be wanting to speak to him again

I just feel like if he missed me as much as I miss him he'd text He sent you a pic. You ignored it. He may feel you don't want to text him.

If you really want him back, stop playing games and make contact. But think seriously about the name calling - is this what you want your future to be like?

Name calling, ignoring each other for days, sending pictures instead of communicating - this doesn't sound like a great relationship OP.

When I’ve had arguments with partners we have been back to normal within half an hour, are you ready to actually be in a relationship?

He sounds like a dick. Like my ex.

When we use to argue I would leave the room o get away and he would follow me calling me pathetic and how I’m a child and this that and the other. Nasty bastard really.

You want to put your foot down with it or he will just continue to act like this and it won’t get better , it will get worse. I’m speaking from experience.

Don’t just roll over and give in coz he’s sent you a picture. He needs to know and realise that speaking to you like this is wrong and especially no apology after?? Maybe have a talk with him and say next time you do it I’m gone because I don’t take shit from people who claim to Care about me

What was the argument?

I think the ball is in your court after he made contact already.

What were the names? I often get called a stubborn mare or a total bitch which I find acceptable and probably true at times. I would not tolerate being called a slag, cunt, twat, slut, prick etc

If it resulted in you being called names and you both ignoring each other for several days, it wasn't a 'minor' argument, was it?

You both sound pretty childish to me.

It’s your turn to make contact

Name calling? That's not ok op

Is this you?

Ooops!

@Sarahlou63 what does the picture mean?

He did contact you, he sent you a picture
He obviously didn’t know what to say so sent you the picture to open a dialogue
You ignored it
Talk to him fgs!

The picture Sarah sent you is of two unhappy people, both so wrapped up in their own hurt that they are incapable of reaching out and helping the other

He sent me a random picture on WhatsApp on Saturday which I ignored, I don’t know if that’s his way of breaking the ice?

He sounds like a toddler peeking around the door after you sent them to timeout for tantrums.

He called you names and not even an apology?

Here's a bin. In he goes. --->> 🗑

I just feel like if he missed me as much as I miss him he'd text

But you haven't text? OK.

Ps their inner child is indeed reaching out
Ah thang oo

It’s called the inner child. Adults take up “positions” that they don’t know how to resolve but the child within just wants to be with the other...

Perhaps you'd better contact him OP.

It doesn't sound like anything is going to be resolved until you open the dialogue.

He did contact you and you didn't respond.

What did he call you and why did you argue?

If he called you a fusspot and you argued because you refused to go out with dirty trainers, then it’s obviously a nonsense and you should call him and sort it.

If he called you a whore because he thought you were flirting with a delivery man then obviously he gets dumped.

What’s the deal?

It depends what he called you (and why) and how long you’ve been together.

If he called you a cow because you threw his dinner in the bin because he was five minutes late, then YABU.

If he called you a cunt because you asked him to pick his socks up then YANBU.

Not sure either is excusable, but if you’ve been together a long time then you may want to try and work through things. If not, then don’t bother and just split.