To encourage DS to stay away from this school friend?

[LukeSkywalkerHood]

Ds is 8 and in the last year has become more chummy with another boy in his class. However I have my concerns about it.

The boy is very sweet but has told ds to look up ‘porn’ and ‘sex’ on the web/ YouTube. Thankfully ds told me. Also he wants ds all to himself and when they have to pick partners for things, if ds would like to be partnered with another friend, the boy gives him the finger from across the classroom! He also seems quite manipulative, if ds is playing with someone else the boy walks over to ds and will give him one of his Pokémon cards in a bid to get him away from the group. He will never just join in with everyone.

It’s the other two things that make me uncomfortable though. WIBU to ask DS to stay away from him?

I'd personally have more concerns about the YouTube searches. Obviously he has seen or knows about this sort of thing, is that not some sort of safeguarding issue?

I think you should report it to the school. It's a safe guarding issue.

I did wonder that. I’ll go and speak to the head again when they go back. I’ve already seen her once out of concern due to scars all down his arms which are apparently self harm, the fact that some of his teeth are black and worn down, and that he is morbidly obese. She said ‘there is interaction’ which I took to mean social services.

Wow if this is for real you need to contact the school asap. Obviously.

Yes it’s for real, I’ve been on MN for years. And yes I will.

I’ve already seen her once out of concern due to scars all down his arms which are apparently self harm, the fact that some of his teeth are black and worn down, and that he is morbidly obese. She said ‘there is interaction’ which I took to mean social services.

Yep you need to see her again obviously.

I wouldn't want my 8 year old having unsupervised contact with this child. I would, however be seriously concerned about this child's home life and what he has experienced. He'd be welcome in my home, be cared for and well fed. But only in my company and with no internet connection

He would def not be welcome in my home although i would express my concerns for him to the school