DD's bike stolen

[spikeymama]

Just need to know what you OP's would have done. I'll keep it simple then won't confuse things. DH and I are cross with DD and a couple of her peers. DD leant her bike (Dutch bike style thing.....Christmas prezzie from DH and I) which she really wanted, to a lad from school who promised to give it back asap. Upon attempts by her to get it back from his house etc, he was always out. At this point would've hoped she'd have told us. I help her and her buddies with bike transport all the time. My car is an old Citroen Xsara Piccasso...boring thing...but, you can fit the world in it. WhyTF did'nt she ask!!!? Anyway, boy then lends our bike to a girl from our own village whom he know's full well the two girls don't like/socialise together. She's been using it. Rode it to our local Tesco....it got 'stolen'. This happened a week or two ago. Only found out on Sat night. Fuming. The boy has offered to put his birthday money towards it. He has a tricky family life and they're not good finacially according to DD. Means alot don't you think? He just needs a bollocking for being thoughless. The girl however has been a bitch and instrumental in a huge amount of gang up bullying to DD. (another thread needed). She is a pampered spoilt girl. Family financially...v. sound. The family have x3 overseas lovely holidays a year and she doesn't work. DH visited the girls home, to be offered the younger sister's bike (purple) who doesn't use it as doesn't like the colour.! DD is TWO years older, and taller!!! What do you think?

Get looking on Gumtree and see if someone is trying to sell it. Have you got the receipt? When we bought ds his recently the shop kept the serial number incase of theft and needing proof it was his...

Never lend out something you aren't willing to lose. DD should never have lent her bike out in the first place.

Have you spoke to to the police about it?

Has the bike been reported stolen to the police? Ultimately if the girl lost the bike - or left it outside Tesco's unsecured she is responsible for replacing it.

I would speak to the parents again and explain that you would like the bike replaced like for like. Hopefully they will be reasonable.

You do need to discuss with your dd that lending bikes is not allowed. It's a pity they didn't have the sense to let you know when the problems started. But it's understandable at that age, especially when bullying is involved.

This needs to be reported to the police.

Tough lesson for your DD. I’d actually be tempted to take the boy’s offer and take the other bike and sell if it is any good.

I think you could pursue the family, she took a bike that wasn't hers and lost it. Therefore she could pay for a replacement or at least 50% given your daughter has responsibility.

What did the bike cost?

How old are all the kids involved?

My son is 5 and we always tell him that loaning things to people is a no no unless he asks us first. He often wants to lend to his cousin because my BIL and SIL don’t agree with buying toys (whole other thread) and we say no because they can well afford things but everything has to be educational

I'd be asking the girl's family to replace it too. Although if they say no then there probably isn't a lot you can do. I would be cross with both your dd and the boy involved too, as they are both partially to blame!

Personally think your dd and the boy are to blame the most.

Your dd shouldn't have lent it out and the boy shouldn't have lent out something that wasnt his to lend.

Personally think you should ask 25npercent of the bike from the girls parents and 25bperxent from the boys parents. The your daughter can save the last 50 percent her self.

But i doubt that will happen so let it be a tough lesson for your dd dont lend stuff out that you cant afford to lose.

OP's ...thanks so much for your impartial and helpful replies. Lesson learned from DH and I too. We're idiots for not keeping on top of it. Hope you're all enjoying the bank hol. x

How old is your dd and these other children?

BTW, the bike was £250. It was a proper adult size, as is she, so paid a little more as no more growing out of it worries. A great bit of equipment...I used it myself when she was out. Big bastard basket...ironically, mostly used for groceries from said Tesco! Also, not contacted police. Would doing so be overkill? Argh! Should bollockings from us and informing the parents be enough?

Sorry, their ages. They're all 15 yo. Going into GCSE year. Old enough to know how to look after things. Hence us being annoyed x

Report it to the police - whilst it’s unlikely, if they recover it/catch the culprit then the bike may make its way back to you! Regardless of what the kids have done, a crime has been committed by the bike thief.

Purple bike would be a good reminder of the lesson.
Was it a sir up and beg type?

DH had his bike stolen and the police caught the culprits. The bike itself wasn’t recovered, but the thieves were made to pay the cost back to him.

*Sit up and beg.

She's been using it. Rode it to our local Tesco....it got 'stolen'.

Stolen my butt. It's in her garage.

Don't bikes have a serial no for ID? I f not you should engrave it. Do you have insurance?

Speak to the police on the basis that the boy or girl have stolen it. However unwise your DD was to lend the bike, they need to be made responsible for taking someone else's property and using it beyond/without permission. Or, as a first step, speak to their parents and given them a brief chance to sort it out before you go to the police.

Doesn't OP mean 'original poster'?

Report to police. I would probably inform the school too. They would probably appreciate knowing whuch of their students steal things.
The circumstances regarding the girl sound very fishy to me.
I would write to the girl's parents saying the theft has been reported. Advise that the police may wish to search all premises where bike last seen as it was a very expensive one.
Inform them that police will be checking Tesco cctv.
They might suddenly find it.

I think she’s using it as Other Posters?