Aibu to think I don't need a morning after pill?

[ughdammit]

I had a drunken unprotected fumble on Sat night. Not my finest moment, I know better. The guy had done drugs, it didn't last long and he didn't come as I told him to stop. There was no sign of any ejaculation at all it was like an internal dry hump! I was one day away from the fertile part of cycle (day 10). I will get an sti test asap. Should I get a morning after pill? They make me feel really ill but on the other I do not want to get pregnant to a random. I'm not sure if I need one. I'm not at a prime fertile age.

Yes, get the morning after pill, you could be fine but what if you're not?

I think you need to get better contraception sorted out.

I would in that situation. Much rather a few days feeling a bit ill than risk having to go through an abortion.

I think you are better safe than sorry, I would take it.

I would rather feel really ill for a day or so than be pregnant to a random drug user. No matter how small the risk it's still a risk.

You're still at risk even if he didn't come. MAP needs to be taken to reduce that risk.

Thanks everyone. I feel so annoyed at myself. I will 100% get one now that's made my mind up thank you. Also looked him up afterwards and discovered he had had a long term girlfriend. Absolute lying tw@t.

Definitely get the MAP. Why take the risk? Would you even be able to get hold of this guy to let him know if you got pregnant? Do you want to have a baby? And if not, do you really want to go through an abortion?

Get the pill.

MAP and sti check! Why take the risk?

You are shocked that the drug user us also a liar?

OP please go take it. And I dont want to judge, what you do is up to you. But please dont do this again, you are really risking your own health.

My 'dont need a morning after pill' is now a lovely DD currently singing baby shark

That was with DH though.

Better safe than sorry. Yep MAP and STI check.

I think you need to take responsibility of your contraception.

You could speak to a pharmacist and seek their advice as to whether they think the MAP would be needed?

Yes agree the morning after pill sounds a good idea.

@Cantthinkofanythingrightnow I'm on my way to boots!! X

Yes I know I defo need to sort out contraception. I was off men. This has ended a very long dry spell! Also I am fully aware I am an idiot for doing this. He seemed so nice and went to great pains to tell me how long he had been single for and how he wanted to meet up. Which I am not arsed about I know I'll never see again. But his poor girlfriend :( This is why I was off men. I clearly have terrible judgement!!

OP I hope I dont sound condescending, but are you ok.

Did you know he was on drugs, can I ask what drugs?

This just sounds like an awful situation for you and just wondering if you need some support.

@Ilikethisone thanks that's really nice of you, but I am fine. It was at a party and he had mdma. It was a good night and apart from me being careless I had a great time x

Agree with other posters - MAP and STI checks, but the latter should take into account any window periods where anything caught won’t show up. Depending on which this is anything from 1 week to about 3 months. Perhaps get them done in about a month’s time?

Best to be safe!

Thanks @over50andfab I will do that thank you. I have had the MAP now, the poor pharmacist at boots got all the gory details but she was great so phase 1 is complete! Phase 2 sti check! Phase 3 buy a shit ton of condoms and phase 4 reevaluate my choice in men! Thanks everyone😘🙌

@ughdammit we’ve all been there. I swear sometimes they see us coming!!

Sounds like a plan 👍🏻🙌

Sperm can live up to 5 days! Definitely MAP.

@ig hdammit well done!

Hi op, I am glad you took my concern in the spirit I intended.

I am glad you got the MAP sorted. And have plan.