To ask DH outright?

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A couple of days ago I asked to use DH's phone which was fine with him (I know the password anyway) and on it was either an ad for a one bedroom property in our local area upon opening a new tab or a tab already open with it. Unfortunately I can't quite remember as I put in what I needed to search quite quickly and it only processed as I came off of the page.

Today, I went to use his phone again, this time there was a blank tab open amongst the other tabs which wasn't the most recent tab which I found odd. For some reason which I hate myself for, I clicked back onto what was open before on that tab, the first one was a page for a local estate agents and the second was just 'f' with top hits being Facebook. Facebook isn't an issue for me although he claims he's never on it (I'm not any longer so I wouldn't know) and I wondered if it was a mistake or perhaps he's then opened it up in a private tab.

DH has been incredibly snappy, making me feel like a burden of late due to ill health and he will not talk to me about anything of late.

Something inside me is niggling about whether to ask him about the two things for properties I've seen recently or to quietly get my ducks in a row in case?

Get your ducks in a row. Also suggest you see if fabswingers.com shows in any history or has auto-saved any login details. It's the only other major 'f' website I can think of unless he's into the financial times.

Ask him if your relationship has not been good maybe this will give him the chance ti be honest.

Men who cheat, won't be honest. It's pointless asking him if he's having an affair, he will deny it and deflect back onto you, telling you all your faults etc. You could try asking him why he's been snappy lately, but he's sure to blame it on you.

Start getting organised, get copies of financial documents and see a solicitor. If you find anything on his phone, take screenshots and send to yourself. Cover your tracks.

Ask him if your relationship has not been good maybe this will give him the chance ti be honest.

I asked him this last night and he said he just feels he has a lot to contend with at the moment. He feels that I haven't been doing my share which is true, of late there's been a bit of a role reversal due to our circumstances at the moment and he now feels hard done by. Unfortunately for him, I feel this is temporary and he has only experienced a very short period of what I have for years. I bought him a gift to show my appreciation, he said he loved it and seemed genuine. He seemed very genuine last night but he is very closed off as a person. At the same time, he was roll his eyes, sigh, look grumpy and tell you that is not the case and the sky is green. He watches porn perhaps once or twice a week which I don't have a problem with but goes to bed later than me. I hoped it was just porn due to the fact I have once found a still of a porn video his iPad had kind of freeze framed even though he'd closed that particular tab.

I have no evidence of anything for sure and just don't know what to do.

Do I need my marriage certificate to see a solicitor to start with?

I just typed in f on my search engine and it came up with fixtures and scores bbc football, tesco online food orders, funeral directors, and French martini. 2 of those I would use regularly although I probably wouldn't type in f to start the search. 2 are completely random. Certainly no fab swingers

Yes, I didn't find fabswingers in my search either and thankfully no long autocomplete or history for that!