We're due to move next month and both my DM and MIL are very eager to 'help' on moving day - I don't think I can stand it.
Last time we moved they both tipped up - Mum spent the entire time sitting on the camping chair she'd brought, drinking coffee and countermanding any instructions I gave anyone about where to put items of furniture as she thought she had better ideas. Oh and telling me off that I hadn't packed the way she would have.
MIL did actually unpack but gave a running commentary on everything 'ooh gosh you've got Emma Bridgewater mugs, I've always thought they're ridiculously expensive... I can't believe you bothered to bring this thing from the last house, it's falling to bits... why on earth do you need TWO corkscrews?!...' and shoved things away in cupboards at random which meant it took me ages to find everything afterwards. She also insisted on unpacking my books and putting them into the bookcases all out of order despite me begging her not to and saying it was something I really wanted to do myself, and then went and unpacked all our clothes including underwear etc.
She definitely intended to be helpful but somebody going through all my things like that makes me want to scream. I was very heavily pregnant last time and couldn't actually do much myself as I wasn't well with it, so felt I couldn't turn down them helping. But frankly both of them actually just made an already stressful day ten times worse, and I can already feel my blood pressure rising at the thought of a repeat. DH thinks I'm being precious and we should just let them come and do a bit to get it out of their systems. AIBU? And if I'm not how do I tell them not to come??